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Advice needed
Every year my husband's company has a Christmas/Holiday party for it's employees and it's usually a week or so before Chritmas. This past year his company decided not to do one. He works in healthcare so the people in his department decided they would have a "Winter Party". DH knew about this a couple of months ago. Since it was in planning stages, the actual date was not etched in stone.
Needless to say, employees are welcome to invite their SO or come alone.
This past year has been one of the most difficult years for us as a couple. I had confronted him about having too much contact with a female coworker and his overall conduct around women. And although he did not have an affair, I would still classify what he did as something very hurtful to me. We are in the "building trust" phase.
Well, for whatever reason, he thinks I would not enjoy myself at this party since I'm not a drinker. It is true that I am not a drinker but I do the occasional glass of wine, light beer, or cocktail. I'm looking at this as going to a party to a work related party where spouses are welcome. I think anyone who is married should not have a problem bringing their spouse. Although DH did not say he does not want me to go, he is making excuses as to why he thinks I would not enjoy myself and he does not want me to be "uncomfortable".
The fact that he brought this up makes me uncomfortable. Plus, he also said he never gets a chance to go out much with the guys. This is true. I don't go out much either and that is because we have small kids. If this was a get together with a bunch of guys, I would say, go ahead and have fun. But this is open to any employee and their spouse.
Re: Advice needed
I agree. If it were me I would go. This is not a night out with the guys this is an office party of mixed gender.
ITA with the pps. He's trying to dissuade you from going because he's afraid someone will expose him.
Good luck and make sure the bartender can make you a brightly colored cocktail. You don't have to drink it, but you'll have it ready should you need to pour something over his head or throw it in his face.
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I thought this too. He wanted to hang out with her the whole time. He possibly has even been telling her that you guys are separated and on the verge of divorce.
I'd let him go alone.
I'd show up about an hour into it...tell him i changed my mind, but not before i watched him from a far for a while. He doesnt want you to put a damper on his flirting and who knows what else!
OR
I'd let him go and be gone when he got back.
Either way it sucks to be married to a guy you cant trust going to work, doesnt it?
Maybe he is worried that you would start a fight with said female coworker or otherwise cause a scene. Perhaps this is because he is still inappropriate with her, or maybe he just doesn't trust you to keep your cool around her given the history.
Either way, I would still go.