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Dating and timing
I've made the decision to move out of state in the fall, if all goes well financially until then.
I've been thinking about the whole dating thing, and I think I need to go on a dating hiatus until I get to the new city, because I really don't want to meet someone that's going to make me second guess leaving and cause complications. Because, that's what always happens, ya know, you can't get a boyfriend for anything until it's just the right time to interfere with something important and be the wrong time, lol
But this really makes me sad. I'll be 34 in 2 months, and I haven't really done a lot of dating in the last few years. I've taken self imposed hiatus' before, but I guess now because of my age, it's really hard to tell myself that I can't date. That stupid freaking biological clock is sitting right on top of my head, knocking instead of ticking.
I'm also putting myself on a strict budget so I can make this move happen, so there's going to be exactly zero dollars available for entertainment/shopping in the next 9 months, and even my dining budget is going to be cut drastically. So now here I am, thinking, oh my god, I'm going to be so freaking bored that I'm going to get majorly depressed.
How in the world can I make this work? I know that I need to be strong for myself and my goals and not lose sight of them, but this is going to be the longest 9 months of my life!
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Re: Dating and timing
Mostly. I have a roommate now that's moving out in August, so I can't really leave until she's gone, because I need to find and get renters in place before I go.
As far as funds go, I have a credit card to pay off, that will be done by March or April, and then I'm going to start saving as much as I can. With some large sums coming in (tax return, work bonus, etc.), I should be able to have about $5k saved by September, and I won't go with less than that. I don't think I'll have a terrible time finding work, but I need to prepare for that and in case something happens with my renters so I can pay my mortgage for a few months.
I have moved two times in the past year and a half and I understand the "putting your life on hold" until the move happens but it doesn't have to be torture! It's your life- the only one you get! You can choose to have this be torture or you can choose to think positively about the situation... Sure you might not be intersted in "dating" but there are lots of other fun things to do in life .. make some new friends, start a workout routine, learn a new language, volunteer, etc.
That being said it's incredibly expensive to move! I would save up more than 5K personally. Between movers, stocking kitchen, bathroom, gas, moving truck, etc. every move I have made has been more expensive than originally planned. Also can you try to get a job out there before you move?
South where? That's kind of where I'm heading. :-)