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Help me be a good bridesmaid. :)

So I got a very happy surprise this morning - one of my oldest pals from school is getting married, and she has asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. Her sister is the matron-of-honor (I'm assuming) and I know it will just be the two of us. I'm absolutely honored and delighted, and have pretty much been grinning about it all day. 

I've only been a bridesmaid once before, about 12 years ago, and I seriously didn't know what the helll I was doing - I was only 19 years old. I just had my sister for my maid-of-honor when I got married and one male friend as a brides man, so I still don't really know the protocol. The MOH is the one that's supposed to plan the shower and bachelorette party, right? And then the bridesmaids help out with that, but she's primarily the one spear-heading that stuff, right? Do I wait until the MOH contacts me, or would it be pushy or something if I contacted the MOH to see what she has in mind for these things? The wedding is not until next fall, so we've got awhile. 

Re: Help me be a good bridesmaid. :)

  • If it were me, I would go ahead and start communication with the MOH, just to ask what she has in mind and how you can help. But DH says I can be pushy :)
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  • I don't think it's pushy to contact the MOH if you guys know each other decently well enough, but man did you say she JUST got engaged?  I'd give the sister a little bit of time to collect some ideas before asking so she doesn't feel overwhelmed right away.
  • She got engaged back in August, in fact. I know her sister fairly well, but we haven't really talked in depth all that much.
  • imagellizzyb:
    If it were me, I would go ahead and start communication with the MOH, just to ask what she has in mind and how you can help. But DH says I can be pushy :)

    This.  I'm a planner so it I don't think it would hurt anything to at least touch base with the MOH.   

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    imagellizzyb:
    If it were me, I would go ahead and start communication with the MOH, just to ask what she has in mind and how you can help. But DH says I can be pushy :)

    This.  I'm a planner so it I don't think it would hurt anything to at least touch base with the MOH.   

    Same here. I'd want to go ahead and get in touch with her so you could get some ideas in mind and see what kind of contribution she'll be expecting from you. I've never been a bridesmaid so I'd like to know what the MOH's expectations were :). Congrats to your friend!!
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  • Thanks, gang! I'll send her a message and see where's she at with all of that. I appreciate the advice! :)
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