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I am not going to be able to handle teenagers.

We are at an indoor playground and an older boy (he is probably 6 or 7) is being mean to quint.  He is yelling at quint "we don't want to play with babies go away leave us alone stop copying us.". I know Quint doesn't understand because he is just running around after this kid repeating whatever he says.  But it breaks my heart someone might possibly not like my kid.  He is perfect how could someone not like him.  Is it bad I want to trip this kid?

 

Sprry if this is full of errors I stink at iPhone.

Re: I am not going to be able to handle teenagers.

  • :(  That stinks!  I'm sure Quint is perfect and that 7 year old is a turd.  Haha, that's my mature evaluation of that situation. I would want to trip that kid too.  

     

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  • Quint sounds adorable.  I love that even though the kid is being mean to him he continues to try to play.   I'd probably want to trip that little brat, too.  
  • The exact same thing has happened to Milo before.  There's a massive sandbox at our local park and he was trying to play with two older boys {maybe 5,6??} and they were being horrible.  Calling him stupid, telling him they didn't want him to play . . . it was terrible.  He also didn't seem to understand and was laughing and trying to play, and I had no idea what to do, so I just pulled him away and we went on a different piece of equipment.  We happened to be leaving at the same time as the two kids and their dad, and Milo and one of the boys were both going through the gate at the same time and the kid threw his elbow into Milo.  I don't remember the last time I was so upset and it seriously took every ounce of my self control not to slap that child.  His father did nothing, just sort of raised his eyebrows in a "what can you do?" sort of way and smiled.  I almost slapped him, too. 
     
    And also, on his fourth day of school, as we were all lined up outside waiting to go in, a little girl stage whispered to her father, "That's Milo.  He's a bad boy.".  At least her father had the decency to look mortified and reprimand her.  I wasn't sure if Milo had heard or not, but the next time we were waiting in line, he whispered in my ear, "Am I a bad boy?", and I almost burst into tears.  It was so, so terrible.   
     
    I guess I'm just trying to say, I've been there too, and it really, really sucks. 
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  • This has happened to us as well, and it makes me sad. But I am also not above saying something, like 'That isn't very nice, he is a young guy and you are a big kid and if you don't want to play just say no thanks and walk away'. And then I have told Finn that he needs to just leave if someone starts saying mean stuff to him. It is so hard. 
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  • This whole post is making me sad. 

    My little guy is so social and I already get a little bothered when we're in a waiting room or subway and he's looking at someone and the person won't even acknowledge him. I have to remember that not everyone likes babies.

    Fricb, I'll have to remember what you say so I can have it ready when the time comes.  

  • imagefrlcb:
    This has happened to us as well, and it makes me sad. But I am also not above saying something, like 'That isn't very nice, he is a young guy and you are a big kid and if you don't want to play just say no thanks and walk away'. And then I have told Finn that he needs to just leave if someone starts saying mean stuff to him. It is so hard. 

    I haven't experienced this yet, but I'd like to think I'd do the same thing if/when I do.   

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    imagefrlcb:
    This has happened to us as well, and it makes me sad. But I am also not above saying something, like 'That isn't very nice, he is a young guy and you are a big kid and if you don't want to play just say no thanks and walk away'. And then I have told Finn that he needs to just leave if someone starts saying mean stuff to him. It is so hard. 

    I haven't experienced this yet, but I'd like to think I'd do the same thing if/when I do.   

    I've also been known to give the look to kids who don't listen. I admit it.

    But, on the other hand, I will also be the first to remove my son from a situation where he is being not nice, so I am not just being mean to other kids ;) 

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  • imagefrlcb:
    This has happened to us as well, and it makes me sad. But I am also not above saying something, like 'That isn't very nice, he is a young guy and you are a big kid and if you don't want to play just say no thanks and walk away'. And then I have told Finn that he needs to just leave if someone starts saying mean stuff to him. It is so hard. 

    I'm going to have to try to remember this when the time comes, because the situations you guys have been describing are breaking my heart, and they didn't even happen to my kid.

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  • It is all apart of life, but teaching kids good skills of removing themselves from the situation and affirming them does help.  I am not sure what I would do in any of these situations, as sometime I have been momma bear, but that is I think because I am hormonal at the moment, but normally I just try to get DS out of the situation.
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