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Emotional day in court today
Today was my pre-trial and we finally settled!! Big YAY (especially after 7 months).
It took 2 hours to reach an agreement but we did it (in separate rooms). When it was time to go to the courtroom, that's when I saw STBXH. I hadn't seen him in over 2 months. He really tried to make eye contact with me but I was sort of avoiding it. I could tell he was really trying. He had this face I know so well. The "I-feel-bad-about-myself-and-I-am-so-sorry".
So we did what we had to do with the judge and then we all left the courtroom together: me, my attorney, STBXH and his attorney. We all shaked hands and I felt uncomfortable. I didn't know if STBXH wanted to shake hands with me. So I avoided it but then everyone was surprised so I did it because obsiously STBXH was not against it. Well he really took my hand, like he didn't want to let go. I think that's when he realized what was really happening. Our marriage was over. That's what he wanted (he left and filed) but I could tell he was sad about it and had some feelings for me. We talked as we all headed downstairs. He talked about the cat (I am keeping him) and how he would like to visit him when it's convenient for me. Then when we all exited the elevator, my attorney and I talked and joked for a couple minutes and STBXH was alone waiting for me. He finally left as I was obviously busy.
I think I am going to be super emotional these next few days. I am puting behind almost 10 years of my life. It is hard to explain to people who haven't gone through a divorce. Yes, you want the divorce but you still cry the death of your marriage, the death of the life you had with your ex-spouse, the life you had planned, the souvenirs...
Re: Emotional day in court today
When one door closes, a window opens, right?
I'm sorry you had such a tough day but I'm so happy that you settled! Someone recently asked me why I am only interested in dating divorced men (for now) and I flat out asked them if they ever had hopes and dreams that they were so close to coming true, only to have everything ripped out from under you and your life torn apart in a way that you might never recover. That shut them up!
It is bittersweet for sure. I'm glad you didn't stay to talk to him though. Good for you Land. Are you officially divorced now and settled or do you go back to court again?
(((Hugs))) I'm glad things are mostly over!
Thanks everyone. It's hard to explain to people why this is bittersweet. People think you're going to jump up and down, but truth is, you cry.
achase, this is my nephew! He is turning one in 3 days.