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omfg.....I can't with these people!!! lulz
Sorry to vent about my in laws yet again, but this is too much......I?m actually laughing over here about how ridiculous this is. lol
They are now scanning and emailing real estate listings from the same magazines that they keep handing to me when we go to their house with listings of 'suitable housing'! ummmm.....yea.....wtf. Here - I'm attaching the scanned picture they sent.....notice how it is circled with an arrow drawn pointing to the house. lol
I?m sure they think they are helping but 1 - this house is out of our price range and 2 - it's ugly!!!! totally not the style of house I would ever live in - EVARRRRR
And I realize there are much worse things that they could be doing, but it's so f*ing annoying at this point.....ugh!
Thanks for listening - again 
Re: omfg.....I can't with these people!!! lulz
Breathe. And if they suggest any housing, just repeat this mantra "Thanks, we've got it under control."
I assure you, they're just trying to help.
Yea, I know, it's just frustrating - especially after dealing with nonsense at their house on Friday. Annoying! Annoying! Annoying!!!!! Ahhhhhh!!!!
Sorry about the overly large scan....I tried to make the file smaller, but was having some problems doing it....lol
Or just smile and say "Oh- thanks for the listing." and put it in your purse and toss it when you get home.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
It's been almost 9 years since I met my hubby and believe me, his parents will never get bored of this ever. I have been doing exactly what you guys have been suggesting, but it just gets tiring because it's the same over and over. I know they think they are being helpful, but if you knew my inlaws at all, you would understand that for me, it's a bit much. Because whenever they 'suggest' something, they pretty much expect you to just do what they tell you. My hubby used to be really bad and do whatever they would say, but he's gotten much better with putting his foot down since I met him.
Backstory is this - I'm 37. My hubby is 35. I've been on my own since 19, not because I don't like my parents or there were severe problems at home, but because I just wanted to move on already and start my adult life. Hubby has been out of his parent's house since he was about 25. I met him not too long after he moved out of his parent's actually. Normal enough. My parents pretty much know at this point that I am capable of taking care of myself, as demonstrated over the years of being on my own, being independent, never asking for any kind of financial help from them, even when it was offered to me and I had my last $2 in my pocket, I never ever asked them for any help financially because I wanted to show them that I am capable of handling myself. Of course I tell them what goes on in my life, and have asked for advice like any normal person might ask their parents, but they've never really interefered in my life and let me live it as I see fit. Have I made mistakes? Sure. But I learned from those mistakes and have grown from them. My parents are not perfect and have their own set of issues, but overall, they are good people and we have a mutual respect for each other. They love my hubby, think he's awesome, and are happy to see me with someone who truly makes me happy.
Hubby on the other hand...his family is eastern european. He was the first to be born here. His parents came to this country when theirs was still communist. So I think a lot of their overbearing behavior is a direct result of the stuff they've been through. And they've been through a lot. For them, living with your entire family and having the entire family and even close family friends know ALL of your business is considered normal. As far as making any life decisions is concerned, the entire family somehow is involved - sometimes a little too much, imo. Fair enough - it is what it is. I don't agree with it because I was not raised in this environment, but that's just how they operate. You can see the obvious frustration in this for me. Now, when my hubby moved out onto his own, that was when we first started dating, so I didn't really see too much of his family dynamic in the beginning. As a matter of fact, I didn't meet his parents until we had been dating for something like a year. In the beginning, he told me it was 'expected of him to marry an armenian girl' and he said this to me when I was just wanting to get to know him and not even thinking about marriage. (we were both still in our 20's) I don't think I truly saw the family dynamic until we actually moved in together about 2 1/2 years after we started dating.
I should add that up until we were engaged, I was always introduced as my hubby's 'friend' by his parents. I think they secretly were hoping things in our relationship wouldn't work out and he would find an 'armenian girl' to marry. They have been polite towards me for the most part, and at this point, they accept me - but I think they are just having a hard time accepting that both my hubby & I are adults that are capable of making our own choices. They always seem afraid that we are just going to wind up on the streets or something. It's funny actually.
It's hard to really fully explain my IL's, but if you have ever been around anyone who is right off the boat from eastern europe, or even many greek families are like this too, you might understand a bit about how they are. That being said though, there's a difference between caring about your children and trying to control them in their adult life. Frustrating for someone like me who is an 'outsider', but I find having some humour about it helps me 'deal'. So when I am posting on here with my 'complaints' just know that I'm not so much angry, but more just trying to laugh and keep my sanity despite it all.
I appreciate you all listening/reading and definitely the advice because it just reaffirms how I should handle these situations and that I'm not completely crazy or out of line
reply "thank you"
delete it.
Actually, the house they circled is the one in Mineola.....totally not our taste and also out of our price range. The problem is - I delete and throw away this stuff, but then my hubby gets the phone calls insisting that we go look and yada yada. They stopped calling me because they know I'll shut them down every time. lol
I have to laugh at comments from my SIL once who said to me that we (H & I) should do what our inlaws tell us because they are 'older and wiser'. Good luck there, girlfriend.....keep yes'ing them and let's see what happens when you have children and they start telling you how to be a parent
oh i guess the pic was cut off in my browser. i saw albertson and roslyn heights. perhaps dh needs to learn how to say no a bit more forcefully
Yea, I think he does. But you know, I try to cut him a little slack because I imagine it must be hard given how he was brought up and I feel comfortable that we are at least on the same page. He's definitely come a long way since I met him. Us moving to Spain despite their opposition to it was a very big deal, as was ignoring that very big voice in the back of his head saying that he has to marry an armenian girl. I think they will eventually get the message the more we keep shutting them down
i actually did this to deal with facebook - which i participate in only to communciate with my in laws who are really into it so i get emails every 9 seconds. i check it periodically and respond when i think it warrants it.