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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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I am feeling whiney so please comfort me
I haz the sads because I am hella poor because of moving out. It is haaaarrrrdd supporting two households. Part of me wants to say my good credit score deep in the buttocks and let the house foreclose. I have been in touch with a RE agent but we will need to fix the downstairs bathroom (which was damaged when the pipes froze). This will cost $ I dont really have. Now that he isnt telling me I cant go out/talk to friends I can go out but I have no money. So I can basically go to a friends house and hang out but I cant dine out, etc. (I am just too afraid to spend any money- this week H needed food so any discretionary money I had went to that). Sux. I know it will get better in time but I want it NOW. lol.
f.k.a.= Derniermot
Re: I am feeling whiney so please comfort me
I am separated and experiencing something similar! I'm paying 1/2 the mortgage on the house that he's still living in and I'm paying rent on my apartment. It's hard! I just try to stay grateful that I have a job that I can support myself.
I can't imagine if I felt like I had to stay because of money.
I don't go out, but my friends come over for movie night, we usually buy a pizza and pig out and just have fun. I know it's not the same as going out, but it doesn't bother me too much because I'm a homebody.
I don't know your whole situation. Have you guys put the house up for sale?
After I moved out, I paid two rents (my new place and our old place) for 4 months, and it sucked BALLZ. I had to borrow money from my parents, and that was really, really hard on me. I felt worse than crappy.
It's a situation that doesn't last forever, but it does suck while you're in it. I'm sorry
See if there's anything free going on in your town - museum exhibits, etc. Might not be too much going on since it's winter, but you never know.
Not up for sale yet. The RE agent said if we want to have a prayer of selling it and getting a profit of any sort (or even just breaking even) then we would have to fix that bathroom. It is a mess. We found so many effed up things with it (even a hidden camera from the previous owner- *vomits*). Unless I am able to create a billing miracle this month I cannot afford to give him anymore money for the repairs.
We could do the repairs faster if I lived in the house because then I would spend the rent money on the repairs but I cannot take being called names on a regular basis, have him threaten to kick me out/throw my sh*t on the lawn/garbage, not letting me close my bedroom door/bathroom door. He promises me he is a changed man, he loves me, etc. I just cannot do it anymore. It was impairing my ability to work because I was constantly scared he would call, I wouldnt answer for whatever reason (ie: on office line, with clients, in court) and then he would b*tch at me when I got home. So I cant just tough it out anymore in the same house.
At least he is handy and can do the work himself. Thats a plus!
Oh man, I feel you. This sucks. I'm living with my parents, paying the full morgage on the house h is living in. And I found out he went up to Cincinatti for a football game, and he's going to a playoff game this weekend. It's great that he's out living it up while I'm living....with my parents.
I just keep trying to remind myself it will be worth it in the end.