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updated - WWYD - something that belonged to XH
If you found something that belonged to your XH mixed in your stuff, WWYD? It's something that was important to him, but he hasn't had it for at least 3-4 years based on where I found it. Possibly longer than that. So there is a good chance that he already replaced it (but I have no way of knowing). It's expensive (I could probably get a nice chunk of change if I sold it). I haven't spoken to him AT ALL in the last 2 years, and don't know where he lives, works, etc.
So, WWYD?
ETA: I unblocked and FB stalked to contact him. I decided to glance through the pics just to see. I saw in one of the pics that this item has already been replaced, and it's not something that he would need/want two of.
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Re: updated - WWYD - something that belonged to XH
After moving out of our house, I found several things that belonged to X that I knew was important to him. I sent him a text asking if he wanted it, when he said that he did, I gave it to his mother and she gave it to him.
I wanted to do what I thought was right and afterwards, I have no regrets about my decision, especially since he and his family lost everything (including their home) in Hurricane Ike.
FWIW, some of the items I gave back to him were baseball memorabilia that were worth thousands.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
That's what I was thinking, but I'm really not even sure how to get in touch with him now. I know he started a new job, we don't have any common friends. I guess I could unblock him on FB and see if I can find his profile on there again.
Do you still have the number for his parents or do you know where they live?
I am probably the minority in this situation, but again, I just always try to do what is right. A lot of my friends and family think I am crazy that I gave it all back, but I got everything I wanted out of the divorce, which were the pets. They meant everything to me. The rest was just stuff and can be replaced... And money is just money. I wanted to walk away from the divorce with a high head knowing I did everything right, with no regrets.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I would try and get in touch with him (via facebook like you said or through his parents). I just think it's the right thing to do and being the better person, like River did.
HAH! Well, that's totally up to you.
Good Luck with your decision and if you do decide to give it back, I would try contacting him first via FB and if he blocked you, then I would give his Mom a try.
My X and his family don't hate me and I know where they all work (we are all employed at the same place) so it was an easy process for me.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.