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Question about training
I know I seem like a drama bug but I have a couple questions. First off it seems like nothing DH does is right at work. The higher ups are constantly threatening him with paper work. He is stressing out because of it and they just keep on with the bullcrap. He took me to the ER and he got paper work for not being in uniform. Well the other day he was in pain and during PT he saw other people walking so he thought it was ok instead of running. The higher ups found out and chewed him out. Later that night we went to the ER so he could show them that his knees needed care. When they found out he went they were freaking out on him for going about it on his own. Nothing he tries to do to fix his problems is right. Was training this hard for everyone? Does it seem like he is being singled out? Is there anything he or I could do? Any advice would be great. TIA. Have a nice day 
Re: Question about training
No, he's probably not being singled out. If he's in training status, the rules are strict, he needs to know them, and he needs to follow them. For example, going to the ER because his knees hurt?? The emergency room is for emergencies. So, yeah, he deserved to be chewed out for abusing it. I'm Army, but I'm assuming the procedure is similar -- when a Soldier in training needs to be seen, you first notify your chain of command and then report to sick call.
What kind of training is he in that you're allowed to be there with him?
Ive been in the army almost 4 years now. and anytime you go to the ER I was told to call CQ and the 1SG. Its just a courtesy thing.
if he was in pain..he should have went to sick call...
totally agree with txrgr.
Also, he needs to NOT show or have an attitude of feeling singled out. That will create a shitton of negativity on his part and the command's and will be disastrous. He just needs to do the right thing and if he's not 100% positive what the right thing is, he needs to ask.
I just want to add that I KNOW it's frustrating, but they do that to guys on purpose. It's just part of the training environment, and it DOES feel like "nothing you do is good enough" but it's like that for everybody. The best he can do is:
1. Not dwell on things that are in the past. He can beat himself up for all of the mistakes he's made, or he can just try to move on. I'm a "beat myself up" kind of person, so moving on is hard for me, but you just have to do it.
2. If there's a procedure he doesn't understand, he needs to ask about it. If he gets yelled at for going to the ER, then he should make sure to find out what to do NEXT TIME it happens. Even better, if he even thinks for a second it's something his supervisor/course leader would want to know, then he should tell them. The ONLY exception would be if it's a matter of life, limb, or eyesight (like, if he doesn't take you to the ER RIGHT NOW you will lose a limb).
He's at Sheppard, right? What squadron is he in? Whats his job? My H is AGE so he was at Sheppard for Tech School too in 361. I tagged along and lived off base while he was there (big mistake looking back).
They're hard on them.. it's what they do. Every morning they line up to march to class. There are the lines for class and the line for sick call. He had to go to sick call a couple times because of his shoulders. He also had to go to the ER because he broke his nose and they couldn't get the bleeding under control and eventually ended up doing surgery a couple days later. Time and place for everything.
Training sucks. That's the point of military training - it's not supposed to be a pleasure to go through. Most of what you've posted sounds like part of the normal training environment. I got paperwork once for not eating breakfast. No joke.
He needs to suck it up, deal with the rules and keep his nose clean, and he'll be fine. If his knees are bugging him, he needs to go through the right channels to be seen, not just scoot on over to the ER to show that they "need care". What was his endgame with that, really? The ER is not going to diagnose or perform knee surgery on him right then and there.