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Do you guys still have your wedding photos?
SO was trying to find some tape while I was at work to wrap something for me. In the process he stumbled upon an envelope with a few wedding photos from me and my XH. When I came home he was sad and brought up that he found them and wondered why I still kept them around.
I'm not really sure why I hung on to them when I moved. I guess just because it was a part of my life once and it has pictures of me with my family
Do you guys still have these around? What do you think your SO would say if he found them or knew you had them? What if the situation was reversed and you found pictures of someone that you were with and their previous wedding?
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Re: Do you guys still have your wedding photos?
Nope...tossed them all. With the exception of a few that were solely my family members (without me or Xh in them). I dn't think XH would care that I tossed them. I know for certain he probably did the same.
I do have the CD's...not sure why, but I have them.
I guess I tossed them because really what would be the point of me keeping them? The marriage didn't end friendly, there was no "oh, but we're better off friends". It just sort of reminds me of the fact that we took vows that weren't honored. It was a beautiful amazing wedding...but onward and upward.
Nope...tossed them all. With the exception of a few that were solely my family members (without me or Xh in them). I dn't think XH would care that I tossed them. I know for certain he probably did the same.
I do have the CD's...not sure why, but I have them.
I guess I tossed them because really what would be the point of me keeping them? The marriage didn't end friendly, there was no "oh, but we're better off friends". It just sort of reminds me of the fact that we took vows that weren't honored. It was a beautiful amazing wedding...but onward and upward.
I don't have any, they all went to the dumpster.
I don't know how I'd feel, I could see keeping them if there were kids involved or if it was a picture with family that maybe doesn't get together often but that's about it.
I have a few hanging around in a box somewhere. My BF couldn't care less. He helped me clean out a closet that had my wedding dress and veil. He put the hanger around his neck and danced around the room going "woooooooo!"
If the situation were reversed, I'd probably handle it in a similar way. I'm sure BF has pictures of his ex laying around somewhere, but unless he's mooning over them, I don't give a schit.
H and I are stilled married so obviously I still have them but even when we were seperating with the intention of divorcing I never had any plans to get rid of them. That is a huge life event and you can't just erase it because it didn't work out.
I wouldn't keep them on display or anything but keeping them and having them put away does not seem unreasonable.
I also have to question why your SO was looking at them. I mean, okay he was looking for tape but when you come across an envelope obviously not containing tape why would you open it up and look through what was inside?
LOL at the mental image this just created for me!
It may not be my place but I also want to add between your post a few days ago about SO getting upset that you have male friends and this one it seems like he has jealous issues.
I'm not saying that these are full-blown red flags but if it were me I would proceed with caution on this one.
I have a whole big box of wedding stuff. My album and pictures, a copy of the invitation, and other random stuff. It was a big part of my life and my marriage didn't end badly, so I keep it just for the sake of it. It's far in the back of my closet, but I figure I may appreciate not throwing it away one day.
Bf knows it's there. I am sure he isn't super thrilled about it but I told him before we became official that I was not going to stop being friends with my ex anytime soon, so he knows that I am open and honest about our relationship.
If bf had been previously married and still had the pictures, it obviously wouldn't be my place to be mad.
The envelope was on top of the box that is full of wrapping paper and stuff with tape in it so when he pulled the box out they fell off of it and hit the floor.
If it was the other way around, I wouldn't be hurt to see stuff like that so it is hard for me to understand.
I kept ALL my pictures from my two past serious relationships that I had scrapbooked when I was first with FI and even when we moved in together. He knew this and thought it was strange, but it didn't bother him.
One day this past summer I came across the box with the albums in it as I was cleaning out our spare bedroom closet and decided to trash it all. I kept only the pictures that were of me and threw the rest away. It felt great to get rid of all those photos. FI didn't seem to care either way.
Also, we have a big picture box where all our photos go. I believe he has a few pictures of old gf's from high school and a prom picture that got mixed in with my photos when we moved in together. I didn't think that was a big deal at all.
I have the photobook from our wedding, but only for two reasons. The first is because I had just finished it, paid the nearly $200 for the book and ordered it...a week before XH told me he was done with our marriage. The second is for DS if he ever wants to see it someday, since it has a ton of pictures of both our families.
Yes and I am glad I do, because X's family lost everything in Hurricane Ike, including all their pictures and his Grandfather recently passed away, so they didn't have ANY pictures of him pre-Ike... I gave them all the pics of his Grandfather and the family that were taken at the wedding. They were so grateful.
None of their pics were digitalized.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I have my old professionally done photos. I plan to keep them. I have them put away in a box. I also still have my dress in the back of my closet. I was married a long time and it was a part of my life. I see no reason to throw them out. My older children have loved looking at them when they got older.
I would not mind if my SO had pictures of his X. I just think they should be contained somewhere and not hanging on the walls and in his wallet and such.
they are in the basement, i don't pull them out and look at them, but i like the onese of me and my family/friends...and i used to like looking at how i look (vain i know) in them pre-divorce.
SO knows i have them and that they are in the basement, we each know that we both have a past, we were both married, it's part of our lives and history, but we don't look back on it as anything other than "this is what i learned from this, and these are the mistakes i'm not going to repeat again"
His ex took their wedding pictures, he has some photos still of them buried away somewhere. but like with me, he doesn't get them out to look at them.