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How important are a guy's looks to you?
After dating a lot, I notice that most guys that I date are either very attractive to me a physical sense, or very attractive to me personality-wise. I haven't found the combo of the two just yet. I am aware that I am picky, possibly a little shallow, and may be asking for too much here, but how much importnace do YOU place on looks?
Re: How important are a guy's looks to you?
For me, it's not about how "cute" or "handsome" they are in a general sense, it's about how *I'm* attracted to their looks, chemistry-wise. I guess it's kind of hard to explain, lol
It's all about chemistry for me, but looks is a huge part of that IMO. If I don't find a guy attractive I won't go out with him.
Yep, this.
This.
Exactly. I've been extremely attracted to guys who are not attractive in a traditional sense. I think it depends on a person's type. "Pretty boys" are definitely not my type - good guys, bad boys, whatever, I just don't go for "polished."
I completely agree with this!
Yep! I've dated some dudes that I thought were cute, and then after I broke up with them my friends would tell me they had thought the dude was ugly or weird looking haha. So I guess I have a very different idea of whats attractive than my friends.
i don't think it's shallow, i have to be physically attracted to a guy, so his looks are important...i also need to have things in common with him and like his personality.
i'm not settling again.
It's all in the chemistry. I've found that it's got to be a combo of BOTH emotional and physical connection/attraction otherwise it won't be sustained. You can think someone is smoking hot but if they are a dude personality wise or you just don't click it won't even matter. Their looks will begin to fade in your mind. That happened with XH.
Then, if you are emotionally connected but cannot seem to find yourself physically attracted, that's doomed for failure too. It's difficult to find a combo of the two, in my experience.
For me, its important that there is an intial attraction, honestly, if I don't find someone attractive right off the bat, I won't even talk to them. Shallow yes, but it is what it is. I'm also a heightist, and while I'm a whopping 5'1" I won't date anyone less than 5'10". That said, I found my bf attractive in the very first pictures I saw of him, but was still slightly on the fence about meeting him, but after getting to know each other more and more my attraction for him has grown in leaps and bounds and now I think he's the most attractive man I've ever dated. Now of course, it's not just about his physical appearance, it's everything that makes him who he is.
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
Well, at least I am not the only one!
This too. Absolutely. I can look at a person and say, "Oh, he's good looking," but not feel attracted to him. It takes a lot for me to find that combo of physical/mental that gets me going, but when I do, it's ON. I'm not usually one of those people that has to date someone for a while to know if there's chemistry. It's either "a feeling" or "not a feeling" pretty early on.