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Skip Wedding to travel more?
So my husband took two weeks off in the summer, which equal out to three weekends so we can travel to Italy (my dream vacation!) I don't work for two weeks in the summer but we were strict about the vacation weeks since I'm taking a lot of grad classes and have a two week break mid summer. The first weekend, we have a wedding for a good friend, which isn't a big deal because my classes offically end on that Monday so couldn't leave until Monday anyways. However, two weeks from then we have another wedding in Philadelphia (We're in Boston) for one of my cousins. We haven't got the STD yet for it, but it's happening sometime that weekend, I just don't know the details. I'm not particular close with that cousin since they grew up in another country but my family in general is close. I typically see him now about once a year give or take.
Anyway, I went to book the final flight the other day, when my husband questioned why we were going Monday to the following Thursday when he took two weeks off. After my explanation, he asked if we could skip the wedding to travel more of Europe, which is very tempting... He specifically wants to see Germany, but I personally think it would be too much to see Italy and Germany because if we skipped the wedding, we'd only be gaining two days. Thoughts? Should we skip the wedding for more time in Italy or another destination? Or should we do the "correct" thing and fly back for the wedding. If we leave it as is, we'd spend about 8 1/2 days in Venice, Florence and Rome in that order not counting fly time.
(We only took a 4 day honeymoon last year since I just started a new job and it was busy season. He hasn't been to Europe before and I've only been to London, Paris and Ireland. So this is a BIG trip for us and probably won't be back anytime soon since we'll prob start having kids shortly afterwards...)
What would you do? Thoughts, advice, comments, anything is helpful!
Re: Skip Wedding to travel more?
Totally agree. Enjoy our travels and send your cousin a gift.
Agreed. I missed a very good friends wedding because of a similar perfect timing situation like yours. I also missed my like-a-brother cousins wedding because I was moving/starting a job.
I won't lie, I've never felt guilt like that before (more for my cousins wedding, the situation which was apples and oranges compared to my friends) but, in the end, totally worth it. I'd make the same decision again.
This. You have not been invited yet, it is ok to make vacation plans.
Thanks everyone! I have actually never not gone to a wedding I've been invited, so I need encouragement to skip! I don't think this wedding is going to be fun, even though I love my family and getting together with everyone! I think my mom would be upset, especially since I think my brother from San Fran will be flying in for it. So I feel bad not going since I'm a lot closer... but I'm not going to be in Italy every day!
Now what to do with those extra travel days
(If my mom doesn't get too upset and convince me otherwise...)