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Clicky Poll: Changing Jobs
So, I've been wanting to work at Chris' company since he started working there. And finally a job posting in their legal department has surfaced... so the question I pose to you is this:[Poll]
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Re: Clicky Poll: Changing Jobs
Stand up for something you believe in.
In your case I would. You have wanted to work there, so I would say go for it!!
In our case absolutely not. There was a time that an office possition had opened up at the jail but I know I could not handle working in that type of enviornment, so I didn't apply.
Now if he went back to school and got his accounting degree and worked at my office, I would not have any issue with it.
That's pretty much it -- he's in programming, I would be in the legal dept... I don't even think they're in the same building, let alone the same floor of the office. Sure, it might be a change, but I don't even know if the hours would be the same either.
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I voted SS.
I think it's entirely dependent on the company and positions. So in your case, I say absolutely. There's a position that aligns with your skills and expereience and is a different department than your H. So while you might be able to have lunches together and maybe even carpool, your daily work interaction will be minimal. Plus, if I remember what company Chris works for correctly, well, I bet even their legal department is freakin kickazz and would offer major job satisfaction for you.
Currently, I would NEVER EVER work for the company J works for, just because the company sucks giant monkey b__s and I will have no part in that. Since both of us are currently looking for something else though, I would absolutely consider us both going to the same company if it had positions available to both of us. Starbucks Corp. HQ, Amazon, Boeing, and Microsoft are all options we're looking at that would be both awesome companies to work for and large/varied enough that we would definitely be in different departments.
Since I have worked at the same company as my husband, I voted yes. It was fine. He was my bosses boss and it was still fine. We sat in meetings together, he asked for reporting etc etc and it was a-ok. We kept work stuff at work and turned it off when we got home. There were even a couple of times where I thought something he did at work was ***-ish and we had a few words about it over dinner and then moved on.
It sounds like you would have even less interaction between your jobs, so I think it would be fine.
Given that you and Chris have different jobs, I think you should go for it.
Personally, Andy and I already pretty much have the same job which has its own set of conflicts. But if we did the same job at the same company, I wouldnt be able to do it. My boss's wife, his best friend, and his brother work for him and essentially they all do the same type of job. It works fine for them. I know myself and I know that the kind of working partnership that I have with my co-worker and boss, I would take the idea trading/brainstorming as criticism from Andy. We've discussed it and decided neither of us would want this.
What does Chris say? Also, you know what its like working in the above scenario with your mother/sibling so I think you would be a better person to transition into working with your husband than someone who has no experience and knows how they will react.
He's the one who fwd me the opening.... he was wary at first, but I think he realizes how unhappy I am in my current situation, how much I adore his company, and how little we might actually interact on a daily basis. He said he's going to talk to their HR lady and see if she can give him any more info about the position, ie how long its been open, if they're already jumping on hiring someone, or if its new.
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I said no. I wouldn't mind the convenience factor but I think we both like having our own job to go to, our own people to deal with and just our own stuff going on at work in general.
We'd have a big issue of "oh did you hear about...[insert person, place or happening]" and the other saying yes. This happens all the time with regular stuff and it can get annoying.
I said no. Doug and I met at work - and it wasn't easy for our relationship. Granted, that was a long time ago when we first started dating and he was at a supervisor level and we worked closely together.
Also, when Chris talks to the HR lady find out what the policy is on spouses working for the company. We've had positions open here that Doug would be perfect for, but it's against our policy for spouses to work in the same facility, whether or not there would be professional interaction.
This is a non-issue. Family members, married couples, S/Os... they're pretty opend-minded and family-oriented.
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Then I say go for it!
I voted SS. If DH and I had "normal" jobs I might consider it, but he and I like our separation of work and home. Although we do have the opportunity to rarely run into each other at work if he brings me a patient, which I enjoy.
In your situation, though, I'd go for it.
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I'm SS too because I'd never work with Kevin in the environment he's in now. It's a family owned business and literally, I'm the ONLY one who doesn't work there. If I were to work there, I'd be a receptionist and my SIL would be my boss. I love her but there's no way I could handle that. And not that there's anything against it, but being a receptionist isn't my lot in life. I love Kevin but the office only has 12 people in it, there's no way I could spend 24 hours a day with him. And I love my current job way too much.
I think if you have reservations about it it may not be the best but it doesn't really sound like you do. You said its your dream job, those only come by every son often. It can't hurt to apply and continue thinking about it.
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Ditto. Also, I don't think I would want to commute together. My commute = me time. I would probably use the baby as an excuse and convince him that the "divide and conquer" approach (I get the baby & he starts dinner) would be the best option.
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