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My MIL....
refuses to acknowledge PERSEC exists. I have sent her links to information on OPSEC and PERSEC, I have tried to talk to her, I have even 'reported' things she has put on Facebook as inappropriate.
I made cupcakes for my husband when he put on rank recently that were decorated with his new rank---we are stationed overseas and we send pictures such as this to family so that they can see what we're up to and share in some celebrations with us without being here. She put a picture of him with the cupcake on her public facebook page with the caption "I'm so proud of my son rank first and last name" She is not my friend on facebook because of similar actions on her part.... including announcing my pregnancy to the world of the interweb without my permission after I had repeatedly asked her not to--- yes, that's how MY mom found out because she works a different time shift than MIL.... lovely.
Anyway... what would your next step be? Husband has tried to talk to her about it as well, but she seriously refuses to believe she's doing anything wrong by posting his rank and name on a public page. (We don't give her information when he is deployed for similar reasons)
Re: My MIL....
we've tried that. then she steals them from family members when she visits them.
Husband will give her a 'waiting period' and then tell her or she'll just find out from someone else
I'm really at a loss right now, it irritates me so badly because it is my family that is at risk here.
If she steals them from other people, then you don't give them to other people. Tell her, and everyone else, that you have warned her several times and now everyone will have to face the punishments. Maybe the other family memebers will help convince her she needs to lay off. Let her know you realize she is proud of your H and your family, but she needs to lay off.
If she steals them without the family members knowledge (she has literally gone through locked drawers in her other son's house-- who is very very close with husband), is it fair to exlude them when they completely understand and support our decision not to share things with her? We have had several other family members and friends tell her to knock it off as well.
If she stole something from a locked drawer in my house, I would call the cops. or threaten to in order to get the stuff back. Then not let her back in the house. thats ridiculous that people let her get away with that, family or no. People are enabling her.
I changed my name
I changed my name
I agree. Unfortunately it was not my house and I would have called the cops. Her family does enable her because they are under the mindset that she will not change so why bother.
It's unfortunate and it's painful, but I agree with the others. If you can't trust your pictures and info. with other family members (whether she's going through locked drawers or not) then the only sure way to keep that stuff out of her hands is to keep it out of everybody's hands. I know it sucks to have to be that way with an adult but some people just don't get it otherwise.
I personally do not speak to her or allow her to call our home, we do not visit her either. Husband still speaks to her 'occasionally' because he is not as upset about all of this as I am.
This, exactly. Doing anything else is only enabling her.