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WWYD? Vacation with 6ish week old
My in laws really want Lance and I to go back to Arizona with them in the fall. At first when we found out we were pregnant again the answer was 'no way in hell'... but now Lance is trying to convince me to go while we can still get both kids on the plane for free.
IL's have a house down there, so technically when I don't feel like going out on the lake I could just stay with the baby at the house, and Lance could take Wyatt with them. But I'm still not sure. I talked to my Mom and she said 'It's easier to take a newborn down there than a 10 month old'... maybe true, since Wyatt had quite a few burnout days last time where IL's still wanted us to take him on the lake.
Last time it was a pretty stressful trip, between having no time to ourselves, IL's pushing Wyatt to his limit everyday, eating out every other day, the hot weather and IL's 'need' to get on the lake as fast as possible each morning... So the thought of adding a newborn to the mix makes the trip even less appealing.
Thoughts? Would you go?
Re: WWYD? Vacation with 6ish week old
Personally there is no way I would go. Especially not based on your experience last time! Having a newborn and a busy little one would definitely make it even more stressful. I can see why Lance would want you to go though.. I just don't think it's reasonable to have to decide now if you would be up to going with a 6 week old.
The other side is do you have to get a passport for baby? If so would you even have it on time.. you'll need to get baby's birth certificate first and by then you'll be even more strapped for time trying to get a passport.
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I probably wouldn't want to. I feel like you are still not even settled yet at 6 weeks, and for me, I would want to be on vacation and not at home at that time. On the other hand, if they would help you with Wyatt, then it could be great to have the extra sets of hands around. If it was me though, I wouldn't do it
This is a good point. With Wyatt, once we applied for the birth certificate it took us 2 weeks to get it, and then 2 weeks to get the passport after we applied, but that is not to say that would be the case this time. I'll bring that up to Lance.
You can pay extra to get a rush on the birth certificate. We dropped the ball on getting Kenzie's to get her passport in time for palm springs so we paid I think $20 extra to get it in 2 days. You can also pay extra to rush the passport application.
That being said, my first instinct was do it! At 6 weeks the baby will likely just sleep most of the time still. The baby will also give you an "excuse" to tell your ILs to bugger off and leave you alone. However. Then when I read what you said about how pushy they are, maybe not the best idea. If it's going to be more stress than enjoyment it"s not worth it.
If it didn't involve the inlaws I would do it. It sounds like you have lots of issues with the IL's and I wouldnt want to vacation with them with two youngsters if you have the above mentioned issues.
Flying with younger kids is easier by far than older toddlers! Even though A can still fly for free we will be buying him tickets for our next flight, he's pretty big and could totally use his own seat. I like to travel, so I may be in a different mindset than some-if it wasn't flu season I would be going to Seattle with S and both kiddos the end of this month and then VA in March.
I have no real advice. It sounds like the ILs are pretty difficult to deal with, but then again, the baby would provide a good excuse to not be with them constantly and for you to get a break and let Wyatt have some one on one time with Lance. So, I have no idea what I'd do if I were you.
I just wanted to say thanks to all the moms who said traveling with a small baby isn't that big a deal. T is convinced we will never travel once the baby comes because "flying with a baby is so hard." I have tried to explain that many people do it, and now I have evidence to show him that some of you have taken yor newborns on trips, and hopefully he'll agree and we can try to visit my family in FL sometime after baby arrives barring any complications.
I can't speak to the momness of this but in terms of in-laws... my instinct was to go too. I think if they pressure you to come and do things involving traveling, it'd be easier at six weeks than at six months or a year... so maybe by going then you can put them off for a while and not have to deal with it with a one year old...
That being said, I think ground rules would have to be set ahead of time... like you just may want to stay at the house or on shore most days and that hubs would have to really help with Wyatt and all of that... might actually give you some good solitude time...