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I know you were all on pins & needles
but our first counseling session went great.
I spent the morning feeling like I was going to *v because I have weird hangups with shrinks. Like, I *know* they're there to figure out how to help you, and they aren't mind readers, but they still need a feel for the dynamics if they're going to help... but I feel half the time that they'll leap to the conclusion that I'm crazy, and the source of all problems and possibly the cause of bad hair days in general... or something like that. I know, I know, ellipses abuse. Sorry.
But also they might think I'm crazy because well, I'm thinking these things and twitching and trying to figure out where to put my hands. (<--which is worse btw, when you're with someone else. Hold hands? Is on knee okay? I'm tired of holding hands, is it okay to draw away or will she think I don't like what he's saying? Oh, crap. Think of all the celebrity mags where they show them looking in opposite directions on the red carpet and the next thing they're divorced. We're doomed.)
But, no. It was okay. She seemed nice and smart and said we overthink things. She asked briefly about my horrible no good rotten childhood, and moved on quickly. We talked about a few goals, arguing effectively, working together stuff. I think we're starting with finding a balance between home life and social life, because dammit, we need more than just each other, as wonderful as we might be. Although she said I need to lighten up a little on getting Mr M out of the house if he's happy being an introvert. In all, it was nice just have a time that focus on being there for each other.
You know that feeling early on, when you have so much to offer and you just want to give all you can so you can really enjoy being your best together? Not quite to the exhausting, breathless stage, but a little bit like that.
This is good.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Re: I know you were all on pins &amp; needles
I think I missed the original post on this, but I'm happy to hear that things went well.
I'm giggling at your hand placement dilemma. Sounds like something I would do.
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That is awesome.
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I'm glad it went well.
I am happy it was a good session. I can totally picture myself in the body language situation too.
I'm glad it went well! Was this the same counselor who wanted you to read a book before you came to counseling or someone else?
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Ha!
It was someone else, we decided that Love Languages guy didn't fit our schedule, and Mr M feels more comfortable sharing his fweelings with a woman.
When we told her we had the Gottman book, she assigned us a chapter for homework. But at least that's research based.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
I think I missed the initial post too, but this sounds awesome. Yay for you guys!
I would totally be doing the hand awkwardness and over analyzing - neuroses sisters.