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Sex/new relationships?
I have no clue how long to wait! I met a guy back in Nov and then ran into him again 2 weeks ago and we exchanged #'s. We have seen each other 8X over the last couple weeks. He took me to dinner once, a movie/drinks one night, made me dinner at his house one night, I made him dinner one night, we went for a long walk and lunch one day, and then the other 3 nights we went out for drinks. I am super attracted to him, but we have not had sex yet. I have slept over once. I feel that I want to, but do you think it is too soon? Even though we've seen each other a lot, I feel that 2 weeks is too soon. Am I a big prude?? We've pretty much just kissed, he has pushed for more! HELP!
Re: Sex/new relationships?
You are similar to me, I have not dated in 12 years (I am 36 now)! I just have no clue what is normal! I feel ready to sleep with him, but my concern is that he gets the wrong impression- that I am easy! I don't want that. I slept over b/c we drank way too much and I didn't want to drive back to my place.
What you should do is talk to him about it. Tell him you want to take it a bit slow and get to know him a bit more as you are pretty new to dating again. Any guy worth your time will respect you. Guys like to chase as well so this should only make you more interesting to him. You don't have to wait forever but a couple more weeks would be good.
If you feel you can't communicate this to him easily then you are definitely not ready to have sex with him.
DO IT!!! Sounds like you're ready and want to, so what's holding you back? You've had a lot of dates and have know one another for a long period of time, nothing wrong with going for it.
We'll all want details, obviously...
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I think it depends on the situation. There is no set number of dates. After I got divorced and started dating again, I was adamant that I wasn't going to sleep with anyone for at least 10 dates. The first guy I dated, I stuck with that. It became a joke with him. Shortly after we broke up. We were just not right for each other.
With bf, we slept together on date #3; a year and a quarter later, we are moving in together. It was just right and we both knew it.
I honestly think you have to go with your gut ... and keep a personal supply of condoms so you can always be safe
I agree with is, it's all about the level of comfort you feel with a particular person. Personally I think you've held out a lot longer than most women I know would have (myself included haha) for someone they are really into. To me it's more about the quality of the time spent than the time spent, and also what comes in between. I feel closer to someone if we not only hang out but are keeping in touch a lot in between via text and phone. With my current BF, "it" happened on the 4th date and it took an iron will for it to not happen before that, there was so much attraction. But aside from attraction I also knew that we had something and that it would go beyond the physical. If you feel ready, just be confident and go for it. If you don't feel ready, wait a bit. There will be a million opinions on how soon is too soon. Only you know what is the right timing for you.
If he's 'pushing', you're not ready.
You will never be sorry you waited a bit longer; you might just be sorry you jumped in too soon. Nobody ever died of waiting.
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