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Unbelievable!!!
So when I found out about my BFP, I called my childhood bff. She was the very first one I told, and she absolutely swore up and down that she wouldn't say anything to anyone because I hadn't told anyone else yet.
I just got a text from her saying "ummm... my mom just told [my sister] that you're pregnant."
WHAT. THE. !?!?!?!?!
So she did tell her mom, and her husband, who then broke the news to my family BEFORE I COULD!!!! I am so p!ssed, and hurt, and angry. I was forced to tell my family over the phone, even though DH and I were planning go home the weekend of my first prenatal appointment, which is the 25th, and tell them in person.
I feel so betrayed. I have been dreaming of telling my family I was pregnant now for like 2 years, and I feel like she stole that from me. She sucks. :-/
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That is horrible. I don't know how I'd forgive that. Obviously, at some point you need to tell her how hurt you are -- but I don't think I could do that in a mature adult way right away.
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I'm so sorry that is super crappy... It's annoying when people don't keep their mouths shut about something you ask them too.
That being said.. did your family actually find out from them first or did you still tell them on the phone first?
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Her mom told my sister. Because I couldn't get a hold of her right away to keep her from spilling the beans, I felt forced into telling my parents and other sisters to keep them from hearing it through the the grapevine.
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And yes, I made her swear not to tell a soul.
Ugh! That is so sucky! I'm so sorry. The one thing I've learned through this telling people about BFP thing is, don't tell ANYONE until you are ready to tell people. I told my mom and BFF right away because I was so excited. I made them swear not to tell anyone else because we wanted to keep it a secret until at least our first appt, which isn't until Jan 18, I told them back on 12/8 when I got the BFP. That night my mom started texting me asking who she could tell. A couple weeks later when I felt ready enough to tell my aunt who I am super close to, I found out my mom couldn't keep her mouth shut. I was so mad. I've come to realize that my mom has probably already spilled the beans to my entire family and everyone's just not telling me, because unlike her, they apparently can keep a secret and keep me in the dark.
Then, my BFF told her entire family, including her parents and cousins at Christmas, all of whom I know well and know tons of the same people I know. I'm sure half our hometown knows by now, or at least is my assumption. Still I haven't been outed on FB yet *knocks on wood*.
That got long. Sorry. Sending tons of hugs your way! And I agree, tell her how you feel, I already had the "talk" with my mom, even though I know it went in one ear and out the other, at least it made me feel a little better.
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So not cool!
On the other hand at least because you found out before you family knew you were still able to tell them yourself.. as crappy as it was that it wasn't the way you wanted too!
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Yeah, that sucks. I've pretty much made up my mind that I won't even tell you guys before I'm ready to tell everyone.
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I doubt that will last, but it's a good thought. I will echo Alise that perhaps the bright lining in all of this is that you did get to tell your folks yourself, even if it is over the phone and not the way you wanted to go about it. It would have been much harder on you if you hadn't.
That's absurd and unbelievably rude! I'm so sorry you had that taken away from you. This post convinces me to not tell a sole I until I'm ready to tell all. It's just too hard to know
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