Military Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Reenlisting
DH and I decided that right now it will be best if he reenlists in the Navy after 10 years already in. He is coming off shore duty, headed to sea duty. How do you all cope with the day-to-day while DH is gone? We have an 8 month old and dating and deployments is different than baby and deployments. Also I work full time and I'm most worried of the stresses that come with his unpredictable schedule and abrupt single parenthood.
Re: Reenlisting
I've been a single parent. It's not the same as having to care for your kids while your spouse is deployed. I was completely on my own with no one at all to have my back when I was a single mom. Even when my H is deployed, I know I have his support even from 2000 miles away. It makes all the difference in the world. Plus, you are married, not single.
One to how we cope. We just do. What other choice to I have? My kids are completely dependent on me. My husband is completely counting on me to take care of things here so he can do his job to the best of his ability there. If he's there worried about me and our kids, his head isn't where it needs to be. That's how people get hurt.
It will be stressful, but you will be able to deal with it. You find a support group of friends who you can lean on and laugh with . Get a friend to come help you clean your house one week and you go help her clean her house the next. Start a cooking group of other wives. On Monday, y'all all meet a Suzy's house for dinner she cooked. On Wednesday, y'all meet at your house for dinner you cooked. So on and so forth. It helps to have people around you and to have conversation outside of work and baby.
Don't worry about your baby. Baby will adjust. There may be some stress in the begining, but y'all will be just fine. Don't forget, babies take their cues form those around them. If you are stressed and freaking out, baby will stess and freak out.