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Dating at 33 is hard
Not just for me, but I think for all women in this general age group, and I think I've figured out why, from reading a ton of okcupid profiles tonight.
Guys are of two schools of thought on women in this age group. A) "there's nothing but single moms out there, and I don't want to play daddy", and 
"ugh, her biological clock is going to be ringing right in my face and she's gonna badger me to get serious soon so she can have a kid before her eggs rot".
So at this age, you're damned if you do have kids, and damned if you don't! lol
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Re: Dating at 33 is hard
I'm also 33 and finding myself struggling a little as well. Sometimes I wonder if it's the area I live in, though.
I'm 36, so agewise, I'm in the same boat. I'm on match.com and finding it to be OK, honestly. I am a single mom, but I put that right out there and don't hide the fact that DD is my priority. I honestly just let guys make contact so then I know they are serious about a single mom. What I have found is that the few guys I've dated, they are all out of the party scene and ready to settle down and do the family thing, which is what I would like. I know this could be a long process, but I am happy with my life and optimistic that my future holds great things. Good luck!
You could be kind and lie to me. This scares me.
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If you don't want kids it won't be depressing at all! I am 36, divorced and have had no issues meeting lots of guys! I don't want kids either, but am fine with someone who already has them.
I'm finding a lot of the guys I would be interested in do not have kids but want them in the future and since I'm not sure I want to have anymore I don't contact them.
I'm with you. DH and I got married when I was 41, but in the 3 years before we got together, I had maybe 2 dates. It seems like the only guys who are interested in a 40-something are 60-but these are the same guys that were only interested in 20-somethings when they were 40!
Even though DH and I got married in our 40's, we met when I was 34. The timing wasn't right for us then, but obviously it got better.
The pool of good guys to date was smaller when I was dating after divorce (I was 35 when we divorced). I just found it took more patience to find the right one. I went on LOTS of first dates and a few 2nd or 3rd dates. Some didn't get more dates because they were boring, didn't offer to split the check, lied about their height on their profile (I know that one sounds lame, and he was very nice, but my ex was a big liar, so any lie off the bat like that was a no for me).
I realized you have to think outside your type a bit at our age. My "type" was tall blonde businessman or lawyer. My bf is average height, brown hair and an engineer. But he is a great match for me. I took the date because while he is an engineer now, he actually studied theatre in college like me, so I figured the stereotypical social awkwardness of engineers might not be there. So glad I took the date.
I have asked him why he was open to dating a single mom and he said it was because he didn't want to rule out a great person and potential partner simply because they already had a child. He wants a child of his own and as long as she was open to another child, the fact that she already had one wasn't a deal breaker to him. He has a very laid back and go with the flow attitude, which I think helps when you have a 5 year old that you are bringing into the picture.