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Taking the plunge...again
I was bored last night, so my brilliant idea was to sign up on match.com again. God help me. As usual I am coming here as my source for all things women. I have pasted most of my profile below. Please tear it to pieces and give me your thoughts. I know this might be cheating but I really want a better experience than my first rodeo with online dating. Brutal honesty please. Thank you
Relationship: Divorced Have kids: Yes, they sometimes live at home (3+) Want kids: No, but it's OK if my partner has kids Ethnicity: White / Caucasian Body type: About average Height: 6'1" (185cms) Faith: I'll tell you later Smoke: No Way Drink: Social Drinker
A few things about me:
Being a positive role model for my children is what drives me.
Looking for a LTR.
Have a big heart and mind.
Love to laugh and will be the first to laugh at myself.
Know I am blessed to be surrounded by amazing family and friends.
Know when to be laid back and when to cut loose.
Non-medicated, honest, and grounded.
No criminal record or addictions.
Love exercising and improving my physical abilities.
Like cuddling, just dont ask me to declare that in public.
Wine tasting, would love to do more.
Ice cream tasting, would love to do less....ok so maybe not entirely true.
I am really good at embarrassing my kids in front of their friends when I think I am being funny.
Does not travel the country attending Star Trek conventions.
If you want to go our for sushi, I will likely ask if they also serve steak.
Consults Thesaurus.com to appear more intelligent than actual capacity.
Wont throw red shops towels in hot water with your white camisoles to dodge laundry.
What I am looking for:
A female...that is all. Hahaha..joking.
A woman with confidence and honesty.
Must have a sense of humor.
Must love children.
Affectionate with a big heart.
Supports me, but also pushes me to become a better man.
Knows how important my family and friends are to me.
Likes to stay active....having a regular workout routine is not a must but would be nice.
Is done with falling for men who disrespect and hurt you.
Doesnt mind taking in a football game or dressing up for a night on the town.
I offer a lot to a relationship and looking for the same in return. I plan to be on this earth for several more decades and wanting to find a great woman to share that time with. Please ask me anything!
Looking forward to speaking with you soon!!
Re: Taking the plunge...again
Speaking from someone on Match.com and reading a lot of profiles, some of the stuff you have on here is on EVERY profile and doesn't set you apart from the masses. Loving kids - seen it; funny and serious when needed - seen it.
Just my humble opinion: I like the humor in it, but don't really care for the bullet-points. I tend to like short narrative paragraphs. Also, because I'm a huge dork, You go from "I" statements to generics, I'd pick one or the other.
All in all, better than a lot of profiles I've read through, but maybe that's my area?!?
Take this with a grain of salt, because I've never done online dating.
I'm also not a fan of the bullet point-style phrases. Use complete sentences, please.
The line about looking for a woman who's done falling for guys who hurt and disrespect her seems trite and contrived.
Oh, I skimmed that part, please remove that...
I agree that it sounds like many of the profiles out there. It's amazing how many men are down to earth, laid back, like spending time with family and can watch football and enjoy wine. Also, the bullet about looking for a woman and the haha jk is no bueno IMO.
If you want to set yourself apart keep it shorter and quality. Isolate 3 things you really want in a partner and mention those. State that those things are important to you and what you like to do (going out v sitting at home, working out together, day trips, etc).
Not asking you to post, but what are your pics? No selfies, bathroom shots or booze pics please
I would remove:
Consults Thesaurus.com to appear more intelligent than actual capacity.
A female...that is all. Hahaha..joking.
Is done with falling for men who disrespect and hurt you.
I agree with the PPs, remove some items and use a paragraph format. Make it sound sincere, as I'm sure you are
Sounds good JM!
Otherwise, I'm not being as hard on you as the rest. I totally agree about no self pics though...especially in the bathroom mirror. Those are a major no-no!
Okay I'm going to be fairly harsh. Sorry! But they entire thing seems really trite and generic. Also I don't dig self deprecating humor or really humor in a profile at all unless it is really, really funny.
I think you need to focus on more on you than what you can "offer" a woman. You are trying way to hard to tell us what we want to hear.
One where I am hungover and a look of I am going to murder the person taking that pic of me. Another one of me 12 years ago when I had more hair. The last one is a staged pic....shirt off, sunny day, shovel in one hand, sweaty chest and guns, and a glare that would coax any woman into bed. Bahahahahahaha.....I promise I am joking.
Seems like only pics I have are of my kids and I, so used those and cropped them out of the photo.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Ya, I thought your humor came through well, and I enjoyed it, but I have an off-beat sense of humor. So, you may be limiting the crowd that your profile appeals to. OTOH, any gal who's interested is going to get to know your sense of humor eventually anyways, so might as well find one who it appeals to right off the bat!