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picking out names...
Does anyone enjoy this? I used to romantically dream about what I'd name my kids...but in all my dreams, my pretend DH always loved my choices. But, we have a hard time coming to a consensus, he doesn't like chatting about it either. His solution...let's decide when the baby gets here. Umm...no. That would be even more stressful than deciding now. I know we have time, but I'm a planner and would like to check this off our list. And in reality, I do appreciate he has an opinion....a good friend of mine has a husband who says "whatever you want, honey". Even though it's harder, I'd prefer to decide together. Please tell me that it didn't take you five minutes to decide on a name together.
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Re: picking out names...
Jake blowing out the candle at Katie's coming home party
Katie Belle
Kristen, Chad, Jake, Katie & Sadie the Wonderdog, est. 6/17/06
This was our situation too. We had a hard time coming up with our 'short list', and when we met him we decided on Felix.
Turns out DH and I have completely different naming styles and he is also polar opposite in the boy/girl names he likes. His favorite girl pick was Chloe (more popular than I would like) and favorite boy pick was Norman (it's just sooooo not my style and not a name that I can see anyone we know appreciating unless it was a family name - maybe)...
Our first approach was to write down any name that struck us and from that list we both picked our top 3. If we had a name that we both chose, that would be LO's name. We went into the anatomy scan with both a girl pick and a boy pick and after we found out, DH decided he didn't like LO's name anymore.
Second time around we went through tons of different name lists and tried to focus on names we really liked, and finally agreed to a name that I love. DH comes back two days later and says that he doesn't like it anymore. What it comes down to is that DH is super indecisive and can't commit until he is ready to. I'm trying to use our name when I talk about the baby so he can visualize it better and hopefully realize what a GREAT name it is. For my sanity I don't want to go back to the drawing board and hear more Bernard, Herman, Norman/Chloe, Sophia type names that I could never ever ever visualize giving my child.
DH doesn't like talking about names either, other than suggesting we name our kid after race car drivers (no, DH, I'm not naming my baby after Allan McNish).
We actually agreed pretty quickly (10 minutes?) on names for our first baby because I had a few in mind that I wanted and DH agreed to two of them (one boy, one girl).
For this child, I'm not sure what we'll do. I asked DH if it was a boy if he wanted to use the boy name we had picked out for the first pregnancy. He said, "What was it?" I couldn't believe that he didn't remember what we almost named our child! I told him the name and he said, "yeah, that's fine" with all the emotion I would have expected if I'd asked him if he wanted pepperoni on his pizza.
DH and I have different opinions about names too-- he emailed me a list when he was traveling at one point and the names were absolutely atrocious. I started freaking out at that point that we would never come up with one that we both liked. Then he would agree that he liked a name and then several weeks later, completely forget that he agreed to put that on our final name list. He couldn't stand that I would check the Social Security list to see how popular the name was.
The whole middle name thing was exhausting too.
This was us with Eli. DH thought he was being funny making the most rediculous suggestions and it drove me crazy! Once we decided we wanted to use family names it made it easier. With #2 we waited to even start talking about names until we knew the sex. We figured there was no use wasting energy on names that we didn't need. With her we knew we wanted to use family names again, so from the start it was easier since we had an established list to choose from. I think we decided around 30 weeks with Eli and just after 20 with Ruby.
I totally agree that naming your baby seems so fun until it comes time to do it! Lots of options, opinions and pressure!!
We can never ever ever agree. Which is the reason why we talked baby names before we even got married. As in 3 and 4 years before we got married! T was named 6 months or so before we conceived.
We are already talking about names for the next one and haven't been able to come up with a boy name. My requirement for a girl this time around was that she had to have a boy middle name and spelled the masculine way (because that's what my dad did to me! lol).
We are having issues with a boy name now because he doesn't like the boy name we picked out last time around. I'm glad we have plenty of time. hehe
Oh I fear if we have another! We were still in deadlock over a boys name as I was pushing DD out! Darn Dr had to stir that pot at the wrong time
We had mentioned Caroline's name back when I was 4 months pregnant and never mentioned it again. then a week before she was born we talked about names again (b/c DH wasn't big on talking about names either, hello kiddo has to have a name!) and I told him I thought we agreed on Caroline? So , her name was in fact easy. Although, I loved a few names that he wasn't keen on. Luckily, some of them have been used by you all so I still get to see them 
If we have another and it's a girl, we're really screwed b/c Katherine, my number pick of all time is so hugely popular b/c of the Dutchess, Sophie his grandmother and a top pick is so darn popular and Charlotte sounds too matchy matchy with Caroline. So, right now I avoid the name game :P
Haha this is similar to us. We have already decided on both a boy and a girl name(including middle names) that we both love. DH actually came up with both first names which I love.
We didn't have that terrible a time, but it wasn't easy by any means. We actually had talked about names just for fun years before and had our girl first name nailed down before we even decided to TTC. We still are undecided about a middle name.
The boy name was tougher. We ended up going the easy route with using our fathers' names, but if we have another boy, it will be a struggle. DH liked "Bear" and I liked "Lucien" and we both love "Magnus" (but it's kind of silly) so we're all over the map. I have a few ideas for number 2 if it's a boy (when the time comes!) but I'm sure it will be another ordeal!
It's amazing what you learn about your spouse during the naming process- you think you're married to a sensible, intelligent person, and then they make a suggestion like Bear!
Haha so since we aren't disclosing our name to family and friends before LO arrives we came up with some "names" to tell people. These were easy to decide on, if it is a girl - Shaniqua and if it is a Boy - Rock. The boy name I especially love because paired with our last name sounds like ROCK ON! which I love to say paired with a rock and roll hand gesture. Sometimes naming just has to be out of character.
Do you have any names on your short list? Or are you guys not planning to tell the name? I love it when people manage to keep it a secret - I don't think I could.
The "Whatever you want" approach would drive me NUTS. It's bad enough when he says that about dinner, heh.
We've talked a little bit about names for our future hypothetical kid. He concluded that the person doing the pushing has the final say. There were some touch and go moments when the little dude was born and he was so relieved his son was okay he told his XW fine, name him whatever you want.
I like that, because have some pretty strong ideas about names. If I have a boy I want to name him Tristan Robert (Robert after my dad) and for girls I want to use either Priscilla or Vaughan as the middle name (my late grandmother's first and maiden names). All of these sound good with M's last name, and I trust that he'll let me know if he absolutely hates any of my suggestions.
I think girl names are so much harder to pick than boy names. For me anyway!