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Z had a skiing accident
I feel very helpless because I'm here in VA and he is 12 hours away with friends. He fell skiing, which I don't think he should have been with his weak ankles he is always complaining about, and he broke his arm. He is having to stay with friends a little longer because he has to see an ortho doc tomorrow to set it. I feel so helpless that I can't be there to help or at least comfort him. I'm very thankful that a broken arm is all he ended up with considering the stories you hear of brain injuries from falls.
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Re: Z had a skiing accident
Thanks. I feel like it's my partly my fault because he went up there due to me hurting him friday. His friends were so worried about him that they invited him up there to cheer him up.
Do not think like this. It's not your fault.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Not your fault. At all. In the least. It's just one of those "sh!t happens" random occurances. Now, if you'd pushed him down the hill, I'd have a different response.
You are kidding right? this is in no way your fault. I am worried that
A - he is continuing to make you feel bad or
B- you are having a moment of low self esteem and internalize everything as your fault
Either way it isn't healthy thinking. I am not flamming, I am hoping you see my point here...
He is in no way making me feel bad and while I know that things happen, I still feel bad.
I talked to him his morning and his morphine has worn off so he's in a lot of pain. He broke his humerous bone and waiting to see an ortho doc to have it set. I'm also pissed off for him because his insurance is refusing to pay or give him a referral. My son has the same insurance and I've run in to this with him too, you have to have a referral in order to go to an ER or urgent care.
Sorry to hear about his accident.
What was the reason for the breakup?
I was unhappy. I thought I would be happier if I ended it but turns out I wasn't. I think a lot of it had to do with all the other stresses in my life. At one point I was the happiest I had ever been in a long time and then just out of nowhere it disappeared. I tried to bring it back but it didn't happen on my own. Once we took a step back and started do things like we did in the beginning, slowly those feelings of happiness have started coming back.
Weren't there issues with how he was treating your son?
He was alittle forceful trying to get him away from the back door and in doing so bumped his head in to the granite table. It really was an accident but because I was so annoyed with him I made a bigger deal out of it than I should have. DS hasn't held a grudge and has been asking about him. DS was really upset that I saw Z wed without him.
Yea, the insurance issue is unfortunate. Does he have Tricare? They will take care of it if so...that is fairly common.
On your first point, he may not be making you feel bad, but you still feel bad. Do you see what I am saying? You should be thinking, "man, what bad luck he has had recently. I hope the insurance gets squared away." Not "I broke up with him, he went to the ski lodge because I broke up with him, and him breaking an arm is partially my fault." BIG difference.
I'm just confused all around about your post. You're either dating, or you're not dating. It sounds like you are, but you are afraid to jump in head first - which is ok, but don't fool yourself. You've also already introduced him to your kid, so there is a whole other level of complexity there.
But overall, I am hoping it all works out for the best. Just don't stress...
This doesn't really make sense. You are either happy or you're not. This relationship is either working or it's not. These two issues shouldn't be dependent on each other. I'm not meaning this to be snarky in the least, but are you sure you don't have some sort of imbalance? Maybe a combination of situational and hormonal depression? If you're not happy, it just seems like you should be working on that before you bring another person into the equation.