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Relationship problems
We've been married for a year and a half, together for 5 years, and our sex life has been getting more and more sparse over time but the biggest change was right when we got married; since then it's been roughly once a month. We don't have kids and don't work excessive hours, we're well off financially and healthy so no obvious causes.
She is more concerned with the relationship in general but nearly all of my frustrations come from the decreased sex. We both want to work through it but don't really know how. Does anyone know how to find a counselor that is good with relationship problems that stem from sex issues?
Re: Relationship problems
It could be you and he are in a bad sexual rut and somehow once a month became the norm and acceptable.
Have you sat down and told him "Honey; you are hot, you are desirable, you are sexy and I'd love more sex with you?" Why not start there. How can he resist?:)
Also try your local mental health association for a marriage counselor. If you guys are religious, also try your cleric. GL.:)
Thanks for the primary care provider referral and local mental health association ideas. Beyond basic Google searches I've kind of been at a loss, those are definitely helpful.
Communication has been a tough issue for us. Right off the bat we both recognized the importance of good communication and for the first few years of our relationship it was excellent but has actually gotten pretty bad over the years. I always thought communication generally got better over time but we seem to be the opposite.
I've felt myself getting more and more discouraged about talking about our sex life. I've brought up issues before that I'd been unhappy with sexually and they were as a result better for a day, maybe a week, but then over time things got bad again and we'd need to talk again a few months later, at which point things improved temporarily again. But after a few cycles of this it starts to feel futile.
A counselor can help with the communication problems. Maybe it's the way each of you were brought up; some of us are verbal, some are not.