Did you change back to your maiden name?

joelen&louis · January 2012

I'm kind of on the fence about changing back to my maiden name, only because I want to have the same last name as my son. What did you do/plan to do?

Sharic · January 2012

I don't have children, so maybe it would be better for you to keep the same name. For me, I had that as part of the divorce paperwork. I knew he would remarry the other woman, and I didn't want to have that last name with them, also, I had to write it almost every day. It did impact my professional life though. I had business cards out there with my old info, and they could only have both emails going for 3 weeks, so I think I lost some contacts there. It's a personal decision. I also decided when I remarry one day, I don't want my wedding announcement to have his name on it.

LadyLissame · January 2012

I am keeping my married name so that I have the same last name as my son.

NinjaPaants · January 2012

I went back but I didn't have kids. If I did, I would have kept it.

JellymanKelly · January 2012

Only because of my kids. I don't FEEL like "that last name" anymore. I feel like my maiden name.

Wedding18 · January 2012

I went back to my maiden name. A friend of mine kept her married name because of her children and got married about a year after her divorce and took her new husband's name. So my point is even though you have children, there is no reason to keep your EH name if you don't want to just so you can have the same name as the children because you could get remarried and ultimately have a different name anyway. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

dm78 · January 2012

I don't have children and I did change it back. I work in a school and being called Mrs. M a million times a day was too hard to hear.

PhoenixRising11 · January 2012

I don't have children, so I am thinking of changing back, although I don't dislike my married name. However, I have a feeling that once we do divorce, we literally may never see each other again, so it seems kind of dumb to keep his last name.

SpanishMandi · January 2012

I didn't, and I don't have kids. I moved and started over in a new state, and I really didn't want to have to explain a name change. My name is also ridiculously common, so I really don't associate it with XH.

docco11 · January 2012

SpanishMandi:
I didn't, and I don't have kids. I moved and started over in a new state, and I really didn't want to have to explain a name change. My name is also ridiculously common, so I really don't associate it with XH.

This. Also, I was fairly young when I was divorced and my lawyer thought that I would be best. Otherwise business associates would assume I had gotten married and it would be uncomfortable to explain. Do whatever feels best to you!

docco11 · January 2012

SpanishMandi:
I didn't, and I don't have kids. I moved and started over in a new state, and I really didn't want to have to explain a name change. My name is also ridiculously common, so I really don't associate it with XH.

This. Also, I was fairly young when I was divorced and my lawyer thought that I would be best. Otherwise business associates would assume I had gotten married and it would be uncomfortable to explain. Do whatever feels best to you!

wannabanaud · January 2012

I don't plan on changing my last name as of now because I'd rather have the same last name as my kids. If I ever get remarried (so NOT even a far distant consideration right now) I'll figure out what to do then... I'd hate to get remarried and keep STBX's last name but I really don't want a different last name then my kids... but i have MANY years before I really have to think about it

sep123 · January 2012

I kept my married name. I have a daughter. I don't really have an issue with it. I am a teacher, and honestly, I don't think my students know about my divorce- or parents for that matter, and it seems like a headache to deal with. Hopefully someday I'll remarry and I'll deal with it then.

MintChocoChip · January 2012

I went back to my maiden name. I hated my married name, it was impossible for people to pronounce and reminded me of XH and the horrible life I had with him. Also, it was a cultural last name and not a culture that I belong to and I felt uncomfortable with it.

StevieNix · January 2012

I'm not planning on changing it back. I think it goes better with my first name than my maiden name, LOL. Plus this is the name that I've established my career under, if I were to ever get married again I wouldn't change it again.

SpanishMandi · January 2012

StevieNix:
I Plus this is the name that I've established my career under, if I were to ever get married again I wouldn't change it again.

I agree with this to an extent. Should I just remain teaching secondary school, I'll probably change my name if I get married again. However, if I decide to go back and get my PhD, which I've been toying with, I may well keep my name, even if I get married again. I'm published under this name, so changing it again would be a headache...

kippersophie · January 2012

wedding18:
I went back to my maiden name. A friend of mine kept her married name because of her children and got married about a year after her divorce and took her new husband's name. So my point is even though you have children, there is no reason to keep your EH name if you don't want to just so you can have the same name as the children because you could get remarried and ultimately have a different name anyway. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

Never thought of this. I don't have kids, so even thought the div. isnt official yet I've gone back to my maiden name on everything I can. I love my dad and his name way more than STBXH and his stupid crap name.

Pugs Not Drugs · January 2012

I don't have children, so it was cut and dry for me to go back to my maiden. But I also took my mother's maiden name and hyphenated it with my last name at birth, so my name changes have gone as follows:

Born: Pugs P

Married: Pugs A

Divorced: Pugs E-P

Alicia_R1 · January 2012

i changed back.

my best friend paid the court extra (it was an option for her) to get her maiden name back before the divorce was final.

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