Trouble in Paradise
doglove
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All posts are the nest
Check out the second page of this thread, not for the content, but the siggy. You should know it when you see it.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/2/61678505/ShowThread.aspx
Re: All posts are the nest
See my post above. I already did. Of course they're all telling me to GF myself.
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Someone paged her and said "we all have secrets in our past." OMG. Are they all married to someone who started this year in JAIL for beating them?
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Apparently.
What the motherfvck. They don't care that she's being abused? Ridiculous! I knew the Bump was a bastion of stupidity but that's just ... beyond.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Seriously, I can't even believe these people are supporting her marriage and TTC with an abuser. What?
Babies at any cost. Oh, wait, excuse me, BABEEEEEEZZZZZZ at any cost.
I just got back from my morning meetings to see this.
WTMF? That's insanity. Dangerous insanity.
My jaw is on the floor that they don't want to hear about SGT's abuse history because they "had a bad day yesterday". And that they think abusers can change because teenagers change into adults. And that posting SGT's own posts on there is "airing her dirty laundry". And that by shooting the messenger it somehow makes SGT's very real problems go away. And that her bringing a baby into an abusive marriage is OK. And that they won't remark upon SGT's abuse because they aren't friends with her.
Sometimes I think women's #1 enemy is other women.
This is how I'm feeling as well. I am completely at a loss. Their reactions are just insane.
I'm also side-eyeing the one who is broke-as-hell but TTC anyways. Are they all selfish twats over there? Rhetorical question.
Women like that think they're being supportive... but they're actually basically putting another bullet in the gun that is abuse. The most dangerous thing you can do is try to covince someone who is abused that it's not a big deal and that the abuser can change.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
ARGH!! This makes me ragey. Abusers do not change, you stupid Bumptwats.
I'm a lurker on this board but wanted to say I completely agree with this statement. It sounds like they are giving everyone here a bunch of sh!t for calling her our on her decisions/mistakes which obviously she needs to be told over and over again so maybe she can make a right decision instead of continuing to think that everything is okay with her "supporters" among her.
Yes, giving her false hope is dangerous in this situation. I know that the information was delivered in a shock-and-awe fashion over there, but, for me at least, that's what it took to wake me up out of my little delusional world. The only thing head-pats and a "there, there sweetie" would have accomplished would have been keeping me in my shitshow of a marriage longer.
I really wish they could have taken a step back and looked at the big picture.