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and here's the kicker
Okay so I'm sure most of you are going to think I'm crazy. And I very well may be. Anyway in May my husband and I will have been married for 3 years. We both have babies on the brain but here's the kicker...... I'm not even 21 yet 
We have an awesome marriage and are (possibly) ready to start a family. I say possibly because I realize that I am soooooooo young. If any one has anything rude to say please, please keep it to yourself. I have dealt with enough ridicule towards my marriage and I'm really just here to see if there are any other young couples that have been through this? Thanks everyone. ~~~B
We have an awesome marriage and are (possibly) ready to start a family. I say possibly because I realize that I am soooooooo young. If any one has anything rude to say please, please keep it to yourself. I have dealt with enough ridicule towards my marriage and I'm really just here to see if there are any other young couples that have been through this? Thanks everyone. ~~~B 
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Why did you get married at 18?
yes, we both want children. we are hesitant because of our age, we don't feel like we have done enough as a couple yet..I can't get rid of the desire though. the feeling comes and goes but most the time I have babies on the mind. And now with winter here and there is nothing to do, it's on my mind even more. so my issue is dealing with my own emotions.
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Do you have a stable income? Do you grasp how big of a responsibility babies are?
There's plenty to do in the winter besides having sex.
I think you want Babies on the Brain?
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4110108/ShowForum.aspx
I'm confused as well.
Is there anyway to move it there? or do i just have to repost?
Sorry not trying to be confusing. just wanna see if anyone else has been in a similar situation and how they dealt.
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You'll have to repost, but you can copy your OP if you wanted.
I truly think that board would be a better fit for your inquiring mind.
Yeah me too. I was 22 when I got married and I still think that was young.
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*rolls eyes*
ahh yes but when someone posts " rolls eyes" i believe it is judgmental and critical
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Hi! I've been there/am there now. I'm 21 and have been married almost 2 years. My husband is 24 and told me at Christmas he's been thinking about having babies. I always have baby cravings but they pass after a week or two. We decided that we are going to wait (not that we were trying) until we have a bigger house, he has a better job, and a few other things. If it happens, it happens. If not, we'll start trying in the next year or two.
My husband and I talk about the "what if" all the time. We both think about what it would be like to have babies...pros and cons. We always think, we need to be a couple for a while before babies. We need to be better at saving. We need to know where we're going to permanently live. and so on... My mom told me once, "If you wait until you're ready, you'll never have babies." And I worked at a preschool for a while and still babysit for many families. Your lives don't stop when you have kids. They're just adjusted and different.
But I know exactly how you feel! I was always against young marriage, but I wouldn't have changed a thing! People still say "oh, wow...you're married?? How old are you again??" And then the baby thing...I learned not to even talk about that to anyone but a couple of select family members. Haters gon' hate lol. If you need support or just to talk, feel free to email me (listed on my blog...find my blog URL in signiture). Its nice to have someone who gets it without judgement.
Well it's a good thing i don't want kids just because their cute or that were not doing anything else. If you would have actually read the posts you would have seen that. And i think she was referring to the judgement with regards to comments about my age.
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Yeah, I don't think anyone was saying either of us wanted babies because they were cute...And like I said, I worked at a preschool for a while and I have seen the oh-so-cute moments...like explosive diarrhea, babies who never stop crying, babies that have severe special needs, etc. I do think babies or cute, but that has NEVER been a factor in whether to have one or not...
And yes, I was referring to judging on the age issue.
And, otterama, I agree. There have been times that we would have never thought about having a baby. It's not about just jumping into it without thought and not waiting for the "right/ready moment." I meant that if you wait until your money is perfect, your house is perfect, your job is perfect because those things will never happen. There's no "perfect moment." That's what I meant by that.
You're all a bunch of dumbasses.
Definitely ready for a child.
If you think you're both ready, you realize what a huge decision it is, and you're prepared, then do it.
But I highlighted the important parts for you... I think you've found your own answer. By the way you talk (including your little unsure emoticon thing and the number of O's you used in "so"), you're obviously having doubts.
yes it's true I am having doubts. But, i think that's just because i want to make sure we think of everything before making such a huge decision.
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Just wait. There's no reason you would be sorry you waited, but there are many reasons you would be sorry that you didn't. Do you like to travel? Go out and drink? Run to the grocery store without clingons? If you have ANY doubts, do NOT have a baby... don't let baby fever get the best of you!
that's the thing I'm not having a baby. we decided to wait. but that doesn't mean that i still don't want one. and this post was more about talking to people who are in similar situations and how they deal with the constant feeling. It's always on my mind.
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Wrong board, dude.
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Babies not on the brain? Post here if you're tired of people asking, "When are you going to have a baby?"
You really might be able to get some better advice by the girls on babies on the brain, over on the bump. It's hard wanting something (anything really) and having to wait. But they might be able to relate to you better.