Should I talk to ex friend?

Comet4658 · January 2012

Thanks for all the help. I deleted the text because it was fairly specific, and I am not sure if she comes on here. Thanks again!

Sue_sue · January 2012

Sounds like you're looking for some drama. She's not your friend, and you're not hers; you don't have to hash out who was a lousier friend to whom. Leave it alone.

Disneygeek77 · January 2012

I would just let her go. Hey, it is great that she was a good friend to you in the past but it seems she is no longer so. Let the friendship die a natural death. It happens to all of us. Someone I used to be really good friends with in high school and college and am now distant with it. It doesn't bother me. As we grew older we found that we had less and less in common so we just went our different ways.

EastCoastBride · January 2012

Most people dont' get closure over ending friendships. Why on earth would you ask her why she's mad at you- that's totally giving her the power anyhow.

Friendships die - it happens. It's a part of life. This one is over. Let it go.

alithebride · January 2012

i wonder why you'd even want to talk to her in the first place after the littany of things she's done to you?!

ElizabethW · January 2012

Betrayel and lies are friendship dealbreakers for me. It also sounds like she's playing games with you, making plans, then breaking them, telling YOU to call her then not calling you back, sounds like a power thing to me, she's circling back around every so often to see if you will bite, and you do. If it were me, I'd let this friendship die, nothing you describe sounds like a healthy relationship to me and I don't believe you are going to get the closure you are looking for, I bet you get an earful of lies.

Comet4658 · January 2012

Thank you for all of your reponses. It was what I had originally thought, why go through a list of all the wrongs of our friendship? Also the motive would be to patch things up, but I am not sure that I can forgive her.

ECB- you have a good point about asking her would be giving her all the power. I am not a big power person, so I don't think about that usually.

I also *think* I might know the reason why she ended the friendship, and it is not something that I think she will admit (jealousy and anger that I have something that she doesn't). It just sucks that we have to end a 20 year friendship.

Comet4658 · January 2012

ElizabethW:
Betrayel and lies are friendship dealbreakers for me. It also sounds like she's playing games with you, making plans, then breaking them, telling YOU to call her then not calling you back, sounds like a power thing to me, she's circling back around every so often to see if you will bite, and you do. If it were me, I'd let this friendship die, nothing you describe sounds like a healthy relationship to me and I don't believe you are going to get the closure you are looking for, I bet you get an earful of lies.

I also think that she was looking for something to get mad at and playing games. She wasn't always like this.

Princess_Lily · January 2012

I've had friendships die for various reasons, and some rekindle again. IMHO the hardest breaks are when its over betrayal. Those that rekindle again after betrayal never regain the same trust/honesty that came prior to the betrayal, so the friendship turns into more of an aquaitntance

Id rather have a friendship that dies due to distance...those are a cleaner break, and always have a chance to rekindle to the same if not, better than the original friendship.

Comet4658 · January 2012

Princess_Lily:
I've had friendships die for various reasons, and some rekindle again. IMHO the hardest breaks are when its over betrayal. Those that rekindle again after betrayal never regain the same trust/honesty that came prior to the betrayal, so the friendship turns into more of an aquaitntance

Id rather have a friendship that dies due to distance...those are a cleaner break, and always have a chance to rekindle to the same if not, better than the original friendship.

I completely agree!

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