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So today I was at work and my boss and I needed to speak to the Chief Medical Officer about a case. He interrupts and says to my boss, "You know, under our watch, Shoes has gained weight". And I replied, "Dr. XYZ, I just lost 3 pounds!"
He replied, "Good. Only another 30 to go!" I'm now crying at my desk.
He replied, "Good. Only another 30 to go!" I'm now crying at my desk.
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That guy is a diick. Head to the HR office.
You're pretty, I saw the pic on your bio. Jackwads like that aren't worth your tears.
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Yeah, I'm 110% positive that that is creating a hostile work environment.
You can and should tell them that it's unacceptable. You should also inform HR. Making you cry about your weight is something that needs to be stopped. I doubt you're the first person they've made inappropriate and hurtful comments about.
FWIW, I check your bio and you do not need to lose weight. They're pigs.
ETA: I checked your bio after reading srs's post. I realized how creepy it sounded the first time I typed that.
I work for a small company. There is no HR department, and this guy is the same level as the CEO.
FWIW, I wear a size 10-12. I'm not a stick and I'm trying to lose weight, but I've never been told by a random person that I was fat before.
That doesn't mean he gets to be a jerk to you. C-level execs are nothing but human, and you deserve the same respect from them that they would expect from you. You need to tell him that it was an inconsiderate thing to say and that you don't appreciate comments like that coming from coworkers.
It sounds like he's pretty comfortable saying whatever the f pops in to his head around you, so you can return the favor and give him your honest opinion.
I'm seriously livid for you right now. I work in a male dominated industry and have had men comment more than once about my weight, clothes, or food. It's completely unacceptable for anyone to feel like they can talk about those things, but for some reason a lot of men I've encountered think it's all fun and games. It's not. And you have every right to let him know that.
I don't care what the guy's level is, that's a disgusting comment to make about someone, and is absolutely unacceptable. Is there a direct supervisor? Maybe talk to the CEO directly. Just because he's up there on the ladder doesn't mean he can insult anyone under him. I'm with fein...I'm mad for you. You should report it to anyone you can.
aww sweetie. dont cry...:(
That guy is a jackass and doesnt deserve your tears. seriously.
I know you said there was no HR department...and I'm not sure how comfortable you are speaking to him, but I would. Tell him that while he thought his remark was funny...it was actually hurtful.
Good Job on losing three pounds. Dont let anyone else tell you how much more THEY think you should weigh. You do what makes YOU feel good.
Dude, that is inappropriate BS. JFC.
HR Stat.
ETA: Should have read the entire thread. I'm sorry you don't have an HR department, but comments on your body like that are wildly inappropriate in a work environment.
I'm an A-hole employee but if anyone remarked on my weight at my last job I would have told them that I won't keep track of their flab if they don't comment on mine. When I was pregnant it was a HUGE topic of discussion that I nixed ASAP. At first I was too thin, and everyone was concerned that I wasn't eating enough. Then towards the end I was "as big as a house" and maybe I should slow down? I was up front about how uncomfortable those comments made me. People apologized and thankfully I only had to deal with it once or twice.
You should outright tell your boss that you are sensitive about your weight and that you would really appreciate it if that topic were off limits. If he gives you crap then you can consult a lawyer or maybe even the workforce commisson?
Either way, that shyt is unacceptable on so many levels. You are just fine the way you are and barring any medical issues that would be alleviated by losing any more weight, I would recommend that you flip them all the bird in your mind. Eff'em.