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Which type are you?

I have a theory. I apply it frequently to military life, but it applies to life in general (it just seems more readily apparent to me as magnified by the military lifestyle).

Do you EMBRACE life or do you ENDURE life?

More of us here, I think, are likely to be embracers, but we all know those who simply endure. They tend to be the victims and those who seem to suck life out of a room. You know you've gotten stuck talking to an "endurer" at a unit function when you realize s/he is doing all the talking and everyone else is giving the two of you a wide berth, so as not to get sucked in, as well.

I know this is a very simplistic theory, but it is really important to me to life as engaged a life as I can (this can be a challenge for ADD-me who does not plan ahead and often times lacks motivation). With our move (less than eight weeks away, gulp!), I keep reminding myself to make plans and be positive. We've been given a fabulous gift of three years abroad. I want to come home with stories, pictures and memories--not regrets and ideas not explored. I want LO to have adventures and stamps in his passport! While I hope that I don't suck the air out of a room, I know that I can be an endurer. It's easier that way. But, it's not more fulfilling or interesting.

So, which are you?
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Re: Which type are you?

  • I think in general, I am an embracer.

    although I am enduring the time between submitting doc apps and getting replies to them, lol.

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  • I'd like to think I'm normally an embracer (as uptight as I can be, I do get a thrill from risks and change), but like anybody else, I go through phases.  I think right now I'm in a state of endurance and I'm feeling overwhelmed, not to the point of counting down the days or feeling like my life is on hold, but very ready for winter to be over.
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  • Def an embracer. No doubt about it!
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  • Honestly, before counseling, I was totally an endurer. I embrace more of life now, but I still tend to just exist some days. I don't know if I would suck life out of a room, but I can say for certain that I take a passive role to the obstacles that I face. It takes a lot of concentration and self motivating to be active in my own life. 
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  • It really kind of depends on the moment. When I am hearing about Step Dad going through chemo for the umpteenth time... its endure... 

    when I am up to my elbows in bills because I lost my debit card and forgot to update my billing info... I embrace it... and try to learn something from my own jackassery.  

  • I can honestly say I can be both. There are times life is simply being endured and there are times I can embrace the challenges. I'm not an over all pessimist but sometimes you just get overwhelmed. 
  • I'm definitely both...it really depends on the situation but I'm making a concerted effort to been an embracer.  You're right you only get one chance at life...may as well make the best of it.
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  • Most days I'm an embracer.  I love my life, LOVE my life, but some days the hits just keep on coming.  Those days I tend to endure.  I also tend to suffer in silence, so few people are affected :)  Thankfully, they're few and far between.  
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  • I'm personally enduring but publicly I'm trying to embrace while having the enduring feelings. I can honestly say my life fvcking_sucks right now.
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  • Generally I'm an embracer.  But now that we're so close to finally getting out of here and moving on, I'm just sort of existing day-to-day.  H leaves for another TDY soon, so that means that I'm going to have to be the one to deal with the TMO and housing notice/inspection stuff, which I've never done before.  Time for me to buck up and do it.

    I'll just be glad when it's all taken care of and we're at the next base.

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    I'm definitely both...it really depends on the situation but I'm making a concerted effort to been an embracer.  You're right you only get one chance at life...may as well make the best of it.

    This is me too. 

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  • I'm kind of offended by this. While I want to embrace, my years of depression lead me to enduring at best, and I consider that a triumph. I am not a failure; I am not weak...for sometimes being only able to endure.
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