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Educate me on NT scans
Okay, not really. I know what an NT scan is. Did you get one when you were PG? Why or why not?
I have my first pre-natal appt tomorrow and would like to have some educated questions to ask about it. TIA
Re: Educate me on NT scans
I think this is my stance, too. But, if there is something wrong, there's nothing you can do, right? I guess - other than terminate?
I don't know if I am more "ignorance is bliss" or "better to know early and prepare" mind-set.
I chose not to have it.
My main reasons were that if the results recommended an amino, I was not going to have one. I had miscarried before having Tommy and I just couldn't put myself at risk for another one over a test. The other reason is that I know a lot of people who were told their child was most likely going to be born with downs and there was nothing wrong with their babies. It throws a lot of false "positives" and I already have anxiety and I knew worrying about my pregnancy for 20 weeks would make me a freaking wreck. I also knew that even if we were told there were chances there could be something wrong with the baby I wouldn't have chosen to abort.
Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
Anna Capri 5.4.11
insurance covered it so we did it.
i asked the exact same question- so if something is wrong (non-fatal), i wasn't going to terminate so what is the point. my doc told me that they would monitor the pregnancy more closely and have a different team in the delivery room. that made sense to me- i guess. plus it was great to see the kiddo.
This.
Pretty much this and what JessH said.
DH and I already discussed before that if there was a problem we would no way, no how terminate the pregnancy. I got it done so if there was a problem, I'd like to know about it in advance and be able to spend the rest of my pregnancy educating myself as much as I could about the situation to come after birth. I went with the "ignorance is bliss" approach as far as childbirth went but for something like this, I felt it was more important to plan and educate myself if need be.
My insurance covered it as well and it was amazing to see the difference from just 9 weeks to 12 weeks during the U/S.
So the NT scan does not indicate POSITIVE or NEGATIVE for problems. It merely gives you the likelihood that there could be a problem. It gives ratios.
We chose to have one b/c 1. I was 34 at the time and 2. we wanted to review all of our options if there were problems. If I was carrying a child that was going to die soon after birth due to a horrible genetic condition, you bet your asss I'd want to know.
If there is something wrong, you won't know 100% from a NT scan. Anyone who terminates based on results from an NT scan is only getting part of the information. It's NOT diagnostic.
The NT scan results would indicate if you should go on for further testing like CVS or an amnio - which are diagnostic tests, though more invasive with greater risk.
We are having an NT scan done next Tuesday. If you?d like to PM me next week for any details I?d be happy to share.
We are having it done for a few reasons.
1. We want to see the baby. Not the most important reason but it?s true.
2. If something is likely wrong we would like the proper medical personnel in the room.
3. I recently read Enjoying the Small Things (www.kellehampton.com/) warning- you will likely cry. In her blog she discusses the birth of her second child, who has D. S. She was not aware of it before the baby was born and she is very honest and says that she wanted to run away and basically that it crushed her dreams and that she feels horrible for how she may have acted when the baby was first born. This may sound dumb, I have no children but I do have an autistic cousin whom I love to death and is a huge blessing, but I don?t want to have that reaction in that moment. If something is wrong, I want to be able to come to terms with it before the baby is there. Kelle imagined the child and what was to come one way and that was crushed when she saw the baby (obviously she loves her child with her whole heart) but that initial reaction was heart wrenching to read and I cannot imagine going through it. I am sure this may upset some people but I just want to be realistic. This won?t change how much I love my child or whether I have it (we have no plans to terminate in any event) but I want to be prepared and educated before I am faced with a crying baby and that on top of it.
Thank you for clarifying this.
I'm a dirty lurker, but I wanted to disagree -- my sister found out that her baby had a heart defect during her NT scan, and a surgeon repaired it while the baby was in utero. My niece is now three years old, happy and healthy.
We chose not to have it or any other genetic testing. The anxiety and pressure we would feel far outweighs any benefits to be had from knowing in advance. We wouldn't terminate and it's all ratios and probablilities with no definitive answers
For us, it was better to just deal with whatever came.
DS 3.12.08
DD 7.11.09
DD 8.01.13
To clarify terminating is NOT the only option if you find out if there is something wrong.
There are a lot of things that can be done in utero, or quickly after birth.
Also if there are no surgical/medical options - there are a lot of resources available to children/parents with special needs that can be set up ahead of time.
I wanted to know ahead of time if anything was wrong so I could be prepared.
There is new testing that just came out that tests your blood in a different way and gives you yes/no at 99% confidence rate rather than a ratio for downs.
http://www.sequenom.com/home/
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/18/business/sequenom-test-for-down-syndrome-raises-hopes-and-questions.html?pagewanted=all