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Jay-Z says he'll stop calling women the B word
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-belkin/jay-z-bitch_b_1210385.html?ref=parents
Ladies, do you feel more respected this morning?
In case you missed the breaking news, the rapper Jay-Z, father to the most anticipated baby of the decade (at least until Kate and William get around to things) made a poetic announcement yesterday. (Really, he announced it in a poem.)
He will no longer use the word "***" to describe women.
I'll let him describe his epiphany:
Before I got in the game, made a change, and got rich/ I didn't think hard about using the word ***/I rapped, I flipped it, I sold it, I lived it/Now with my daughter in this world I curse those that give it.
There's more, including:
No man will degrade her, or call her name/I'm so focused on your future, the degradation has passed/ I wish you wealth, health and insight/Forever young you may pass/Blue Ivy Carter, my angel.
Sweet.
In a hypocritical and late to the party kind of a way.
Jay-Z is not the first man to realize he has been a misogynistic jerk only after he has a daughter.
Okay, maybe the academic studies don't use those words exactly, but one, from the University of Maryland titled "Like Daughter, Like Father: How Women's Wages Change When CEOs Have Daughters," found that the birth of a girl to a male CEO closes the wage gap at his company by .5 percentage points, and if that daughter is the CEOs first child the gap closes by 2.8 percentage points.)
Why? Researchers theorize that "a switch flips" in the CEO daddy's head, "making him more sensitive to gender issues."
That same switch might flip some of a father's political views, too. A study of the voting records of US Congressmen found that those with daughters voted more liberally on issues of reproductive rights, flexible work policies and funding for education. And data on British families found that fathers with three sons and no daughters were far more likely to vote for conservative candidates than were fathers of three daughters and no sons.
"Daughters make people more left-wing, while having sons, by contrast, makes them more right-wing" the author of that last study, Andrew Oswald of the University of Warwick said when it was released in 2009.
I'm not sure whether calling women names is a left-wing or right-wing thing, and I am glad that, for whatever reason, Jay-Z has decided to stop. It would have been better though, if he'd never started in the first place; never written lyrics like "I don't love 'em I 'em, I don't chase 'em I duck 'em, I replace 'em with another one"; or if he had been so moved years ago out of respect for, say, his mother, or his wife, or 50 percent of the population.
Since no apology was offered anywhere in this latest poem, then I feel no need to accept one. But I do congratulate the Carters on the birth of their little girl. And I wish them a little boy someday, too, so that Jay-Z has the chance to raise him into a man who respects women from the start.
Re: Jay-Z says he'll stop calling women the B word
Good for him?
I'm a little sad that this revelation didn't come to him, oh ya know, when he found a woman he liked enough to marry, at the very latest.
I did find the political sway interesting. It makes sense. We ask court members for the ages and sexes of their kids because it can have an effect on sentencing.
The political sway is definitely interesting. I also found the difference in pay by CEOs interesting; and I'm surprised that I'm surprised by it: It just makes too much damned sense.
It sounds more to me that he is just AWing his daughter to stay in the limelight a little longer. Which, to me, is worse than saying the B word to a woman.
Eh, that seems to be what the media is after. Maybe he'll write a poem about whether or not they used a surrogate.
LOL.
I agree on both counts.
this! And now I am at ease in case I ever meet Jay Z, he will not call me the B word... Ahhh life is good today