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Awkward!
So, here's the deal...My husband is 25 and I'm 24. In his opinion our sex life is fabulous. When he wants to have sex, he tells me. There is never any foreplay, unless I'm taking part in it to benefit him. Most of the time he tells me (using curse words and obscene gestures what he wants.) This annoys me to no end! There is no romance to our sex. And we never kiss during sex! I've tried to discuss this with him and he seems to think our sex life is out of this world. Any advice on how I can get him to stop being such a pig?
Re: Awkward!
Geezos. This is even worse than the guy who whips it out when he wants sex....what is this guy, in 7th grade???
He needs to sit down with you again and you need to talk. He needs to get it that you do not like his approach to foreplay: it makes you feel uncomfortable, it's not sexy and it's not making you feel desirable.
To say he's got a juvenile and prmitive approach to sex is putting it lightly.
This isn't a porn film and this isn't a brothel: he's got to get it and get it now.
Wow. How did this guy even get past the first time you had sex with him?
I am wondering how this jerk got to have sex at all.
Seriously.
Hey you married him rollin in his mud... Why you expect this to change now? Really you must act like you love it anyhow or at least dis like it in a hot way for him to get off on it. This is nearly the same as alimony. you let him treat you like a sex doll now you want to ruin his fantasy's!?
mmcquuen...was this always how your relationship worked (that is prior to marriage), or something that just came about now that you are married?
If it's a recent development, you need to discuss this together as a couple. He needs to understand your desires and expectations regarding your intimate behavior moving forward. If that's not successful, there are counselors who specialize in sex therapy. But you will both have to have honest and open discussions with yourselves, and then with a counselor, to make either option work. The topic really shouldn?t be awkward when it's about mutual satisfaction in a marriage.
If this was existing behavior, why in the world did you marry him in the first place? I'm very confused as to why you would condone the behavior prior to being married. Let alone expect it to change after marriage if it's never been discussed as a couple. However, if this behavior isn?t new, it?s likely to create a much stronger reaction from him and potentially make the situation that much harder to solve since it?s been the norm for what I assume to be a while. Discussion is still the best avenue to correct the problem, but it may be much more difficult to get through to him since it?s been an ongoing issue and you married him despite it.