So irritated!!! (Doctor vent)

Kimberet · January 2012

So I called my Ob/GYN's office this morning to schedule my annual. The receptionist took forever to take me off of hold and finally looked up my information to schedule the appointment. So she tells me she can put me with the NP or another male doctor, Dr. O (my doctor is male, so that wasn't the problem). I said "My doctor is Dr.D" and she told me he is "limiting his annual appointments and has hired Dr. O to help." I told her that I went to Dr. O for my follow-up a few months ago and will not see him again as I had a very VERY bad experience. She offered Dr. H and I said "ok, if I can't see my own doctor". I know Dr. H and she's ok, but honestly...I just want my own darn doctor!

I'm infuriated. So I called my sister (aka, bridezilla) and told her. She got all ticked off (as expected) and called them. He apparently isn't even doing deliveries anymore...only specialty robotic surgery.

My sisters and I have been going to him for 12 years (about 7 for me) and we don't really know what to do now. I know it is a personal decision, but we all seem to have the same preference for doctors, so we're in a pretty rough spot. Bridezilla is TTC (we'll know in about 10 days if she's pregnant this time) and without a doctor now and we plan to start trying within the next year or so.

Ugh. This sucks. How did you find your OB/GYN? I feel like we're going to have to do what they did in Knocked Up and interview like 20 doctors. Ugh.

StokedWifey · January 2012

Ugh, that's infuriating. I can see giving up a certain practice, but geez, inform your patients!

I asked around and I got extremely lucky on the first try. I won't ever go to an OB/GYN without a recommendation from friends.

joyfulbride424 · January 2012

I used Yelp to find mine. She got 4 and 5 star reviews across the board - I drive 45 minutes for my annual and I don't even care. Sorry you're situation stinks so bad

Kimberet · January 2012

StokedWifey:

Ugh, that's infuriating. I can see giving up a certain practice, but geez, inform your patients!

I asked around and I got extremely lucky on the first try. I won't ever go to an OB/GYN without a recommendation from friends.

I think that is my biggest problem with the situation. The receptionist was really abrupt and rude about it and I was in complete shock. It definitely could have been handled better.

Luckily, my sisters have friends in the area (I don't really) so they're working on getting recommendations. My biggest worry is the hospital that the doctor is affiliated with. I am extremely particular about what hospitals I want to be in and I think it is going to be a bit difficult to find exactly what I'm looking for with the right hospital affiliation. And the search begins...ugh.

audra342 · January 2012

I got a recommendation from a friend. I didn't use her doctor, but I used one in the practice. They come highly recommended in our area, both in talking to her and off the health insurance rate-your-doctor thing.

sammichele · January 2012

I just used the same one my mom has always used, lol. He's a really great doctor and was recently promoted to head of the entire OB/GYN department at a local hospital and his scheduled days are also very limited so it's sort of a catch-22. I would agree that recs from friends or family members are probably a good starting point.

JostMarried · January 2012

My doctor retired on me and then his partner was wonderful and he retired (and he was the most sweet man - loves, loves women and helped me with the major stuff I dealth with that I already talked about months ago.) But his partner was an a$$hole - I was just a number. There was no way I was going to him.

So there I was with no doctor. I asked my primary doctor and I told him what was important to me and without blinking an eye he made a recommendation. Dr. Walsh is wonderful! I referred my BF and she just had a baby and is now pregnant with twins!

I think asking a doctor that you already know you like about what doctor to see is a very good way to go about it.

ogrady88 · January 2012

That sucks, sometimes finding the right doctor takes awhile. I can't believe they didn't tell you. My doctor went on maternity leave a few years ago and they let us know well in advance and let us come in to meet the replacement. We just recently switched our insurance. I wanted to have access to the UCLA Medical Center, which is right on campus and easy for me to get to. It also meant I had to change doctors. It is an HMO, which means I need a primary care physician. I took recommendations from some of my co-workers and learned that there is a special women's health department that is great, and so I signed up with the only doctor that had an open spot. I will be going there next week for my first appointment, so we'll see. It is specifically a pre-conception appointment so I'm going to be asking a lot of questions. Never be afraid to ask questions, I always think of it this way, when I shop for a new expensive purchase I always research and ask questions, there is no reason I should do that for a doctor as well. Good luck! Hopefully you'll like the new doctor, but if not don't be afraid to speak up as well. The clinic should know that you don't like their new doctors.

hydrangeablue · January 2012

Kimberet:
StokedWifey:

Ugh, that's infuriating. I can see giving up a certain practice, but geez, inform your patients!

I asked around and I got extremely lucky on the first try. I won't ever go to an OB/GYN without a recommendation from friends.

I think that is my biggest problem with the situation. The receptionist was really abrupt and rude about it and I was in complete shock. It definitely could have been handled better.

Luckily, my sisters have friends in the area (I don't really) so they're working on getting recommendations. My biggest worry is the hospital that the doctor is affiliated with. I am extremely particular about what hospitals I want to be in and I think it is going to be a bit difficult to find exactly what I'm looking for with the right hospital affiliation. And the search begins...ugh.

I'm with you on this! and it was the #1 factor in finding a new OB/GYN. I used my general care physician (who I have been going to forever) to find a doc in the hospital network that I wanted. She knows my insurance info so she looked around and gave me a top 3. I went to the doc about a month after our wedding and I really liked her. We talked about TTC eventually and BC and she was great. I hope finding a new doc isnt as hard as you think it's going to be!

cayres5 · January 2012

GL with searching for a new doc! I definitely would ask friends, coworkers, or any of your current docs for recs.

planetkari · January 2012

Yuck, it's disappointing that your doctor didn't tell you that he was going to stop seeing patients and delivering. It's never easy to find an OB/GYN, especially if you don't know anyone in your area to refer you to a good one. I started out by choosing a group of doctors who were affiliated with the hospital I liked (the local women's hospital), then I met with a few of them for meet-and-greet type appointments. I wound up picking the person I was most comfortable with, who happens to be in the same practice as my co-worker's OB/GYN, who is no longer taking new patients. This doctor seems great and I look forward to seeing her when H and I are TTC.

JessyKV · January 2012

I am so sorry that you are going through this! How frustrating that the receptionist was so rude about the situation.

I would definitely rely on family and friends and do your research.

I love my OB/GYN and the hospital she is with so I would be upset if I had to change. I have had good experience with other doctors in her practice though and know I will be taken care of if she can't be there. That is important to me.

AMJ6511 · January 2012

That stinks!! I'm sorry! I hated my first gyno, so I know how it can be trying to find a new one. I actually met my current one at the pharmacy when I was working. She was really nice and down to earth, so I booked an appointment. Have you tried posting on your local boards? I feel like word of mouth is a good way to find someone new. I can't believe he didn't inform his patients!

Kimberet · January 2012

AMJ6511:

That stinks!! I'm sorry! I hated my first gyno, so I know how it can be trying to find a new one. I actually met my current one at the pharmacy when I was working. She was really nice and down to earth, so I booked an appointment. Have you tried posting on your local boards? I feel like word of mouth is a good way to find someone new. I can't believe he didn't inform his patients!

Well, the storm has calmed a bit and I've decided to stick it out for now. We still have the ability to see him (even if it is limited) if we want to, so that is good to know. Also, his OB nurse is staying and my sister likes her, so that is also good to know. I am familiar with Dr. H (she worked with me a year ago on my nutrition plan that has totally gone down the tubes...lol), but not as a GYN patient. I'm sure it'll be ok, but my sister did mention that female OB/GYNs are less sympathetic to any complaints/issues than males usually are. lol

...and no one really posts on my local board. Which is ok...the ones I've seen post on TK, TN & TB are all kind of weird...lol

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