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I was told......
I had white tendacies last night by my classmate.
Background: I am currently going to school for my bachelors. I have met and befriended another black girl who I thought was my friend. We have attended a party hosted by each other at our houses, but not meeting up for lunch or anything. She depends on me to explain the assignments to her. She has met my husband and I have met hers. For those of you who don't know my husband is white.
Last night we were reading a group assignment and I was paired with the classmate and another girl. Classmate and this other girl know each other from when they were kids and when it came time to talk to the class about our group assignment, classmate turns to the other girl and says "We'll let her talk, because she has white tendacies". I wanted to say something but it was our turn to talk and by the time I finished I just let the subject go.
My question is this, we are on the same team for another project. Is it too late to mention that I thought her comment was rude? I have never said anything offensive to her, so this kind of threw me for a loop. I am thinking I should have said something then and now since its after the fact its too late.
Re: I was told......
So a black chick said this to you, right? Just want to make sure I have decent reading comprehension skills today.
Every class that we have together she calls me and wants to know how to do it. She says they way the instructor and the syllabus explains it to her is difficult for her to understand. So she calls me and says "what do they mean" "how do they want us to do this". I never do the assignment for her, but I do explain it to her.
I do think the comment she made was inappropriate. I do think the comment she made was based on her own obvious insecurities and has nothing to do with you. I am not sure how I would handle it, if I were in your position. I guess be proud that you are well educated, speak well, and that someone else admires you for it.
So tacky, though. God.
I think Puppy hit the nail on the head when she said it was based on the girl's own insecurities.
Semi-related... congratulations on going back to school! That's way awesome.
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Semi-related... congratulations on going back to school! That's way awesome.
Thank You!
This exactly.