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Kid Pics on Dating Sites

Do you think it is ok to post pictures of your children on dating sites? 

My stbx has some up of him and our son.  I asked him to take them down because I don't think it's a good idea.  Especially since it is on POF, a free website that anyone can access.  His response was that DS is a part of his life and he wants to show that.  I know he only created a profile because he found out I have one (without any pictures of DS on it) and is trying to "keep up".  Regardless, I think he should respect my opinion on matters like this. 

Thoughts?

Re: Kid Pics on Dating Sites

  • I think it's a great way to advertise for dates with sexual predators.

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  • I think that is one of those battles worth having. I'd keep pressing him to take them down. He can write about having a ds in his profile, but pictures are unnecessary.
  • Most decent parents crop or at least black out the faces of their kids.  Your XH sounds like a douche and I would definitely press this issue.  Your son deserves his privacy.
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  • I'm finding more and more guys with pictures of their kids on dating sites.  It seems like they're trying to prove what a great dad they are, and honestly, it gives me just the opposite vibe.  I adore my kids, but the heck if I'm posting pictures of them on a dating site for anyone to see. 

    I actually had a date with a guy and we talked about this (he had a few of him and his daughter).  I told him it weirded me out and his response was "I have nothing to hide". 

    Would he at least crop your son's face out of the picture?

  • He did finally agree to take them down but the last time I checked they were still up there.  The worst part was that while we were texting about this issue (since he hasn't responded to my email) he kept bringing up an argument about a credit card that occured last week.  (In a nutshell I started putting all the day to day expenses on my new Discover card and paying it out of our joint account. He thinks I am not being "transparent" in my spending when really he wants to be able to see where I am and what I'm doing) I tried to explain to him that these were two seperate issues that have nothing to do with each other.  And I'm sorry, but issues about our child are on a whole different level than any petty financial argument.  Thanks for the support ladies.
  • See if you can contact the dating site and tell them you are the mother of that child and you don't give your permission for your son to be posted on their site.  I'm not sure if it will work (b/c obviously his dad posted it so he gives his permission), but maybe they won't want a hassle and will encourage him to take it down.

    IMO, if I were looking at a dating website, I would question the judgement of any man who posted his kids, and probably wouldn't date them.

  • I wouldn't be okay with it, but I don't have kids.

    I don't like it when I see guys who have pics of kids in their profile. I get that they're trying to seem kid friendly, but I often wonder if the other parent knows the kid is on there.

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  • I don't have kids, but I wouldn't be okay with it. I met F on OKC and he had a picture where you could see his daughter's arm, but he'd cropped the rest of her out of the picture. I think I would have been weirded out if he'd had her whole picture up. I second the idea of contacting POF directly to see if they'll take the picture down. 
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