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God said "wait til you are maried"
but no I wanted to act like a slut and now I'm cursed with a man who wants me to be a slut. Seriously, I've come to the realization that God didnt give me a man who can make slow passionate love to me because I did not wait so I get pounded every night and find myself in silly swings and cuffs...never reaching the intamacy level I crave. Probably going to get lots of hate mail from women who wish their only problem was that their man was to big and went for too long, pounding too hard but oh well, I did what I came to do. I vented.
Re: God said "wait til you are maried"
Wow. Um...talk to your husband? You are not his f.ucktoy & should be able to request variation in the bedroom.
I don't think God has anything to do with what seems like a big miscommunication between you & your husband.
Also, MUD.
This post and your bio make me concerned for you, it sounds like you really need to work on self confidence, maybe through therapy.
Were both of you virgins before you got married? Is it possible he doesn't know what he's doing and is trying to make it better by resorting to sex toys? IME the jackhammer is a move generally reserved for high school boys who get overly excited and don't know any better.
You need to speak up and ask for the sex you want, but you need to figure out what it is you want and be able to describe it to him. I had sex before marriage and certainly haven't been punished with an inconsiderate partner who treats me like a sex object. In fact, having sex before marriage helped me figure out what I like and how to ask for it; my sex life is better for it.
your husband has six kids and you're being punished for not waiting to have sex?
Actually God didn't say that. Men who interpreted the Bible did, but nowhere in there does Jesus actually seem to give a flying eff about whether or not you have sex before marriage.
Also... people have different intimacy needs. It sounds like you should try communicating with your man. If you aren't comfortable with the things that he wants to do, or you want to do something different, say so. Don't just lie there thinking "Why can't he tell that I'm not enjoying this and do what I want him to do?" He can't tell because you're going along with everything that he wants to do, even if you think it's silly. If you want to try something different, speak up.
Although, speaking from experience, when you try to combine slow with passionate what you usually get is awkward.
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If this is your attempt at mud, it's bad mud and rather disturbing.
I am really confused. You have a bunch of posts from today talking about what a good man your H is, and now you have this vent.
I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm just saying you need help, if you are real. Your other posts make me think you are f'real, because this is an elaborate troll...
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Oh, you know you like it! You're just on here bragging.
Bahahaha. She said in another post he has 6 kids and she has 1.
So, OP, you had sex before you even met this guy. What makes you think horrible sex with your husband is God's punishment?
JIC
C'mon -- all kidding aside is this real or is this stuff you made up?
This from her bio:
I want to believe I am Suzie Sunshine; super thoughtful, always trying to seek out needs and meet them, wanting to share everything I know, kind and considerate... ...seems my family sees me differently. They think I think (and talk!) way too much; that my overthinking causes me to stress on things no one even notices and that I think my way is better than everyone elses so I am always "calling them out on things" I try to talk this out with them but no one thinks like I do so no one can help me figure out how not to be wound so tight. I am setting up this profile today in hopes of finding friends who understand and can help me find a solution. I don't want to be the cause of stress in my house HELP
I was thinking that same thing. I'm waiting for her to say something about him being hung like a soda can.
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my DH2B has told me on many occasions that he had a roomate with the girth of a tuna can and had to wear bermuda shorts because otherwize you could see the tip
You're a terrible troll.
Say...I remember him!
He's the guy that we called Tripod!
I can only sigh with you and think that we've been sold a spiritual lie that sex is always great if you follow "the rules" and is bad if you don't.