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So now that I filed for divorce, STBX is acting perfect.
Why is it that he is acting normal and nice NOW? He is offering to pay bills, acting like a model father (as far as I know or have control of knowing), and he even did a side job and offered to split the money with me because the job was for a friend of mine. Why??? This is making everything so much for difficult for me. I wish he would go back to being an a**hole.
Re: So now that I filed for divorce, STBX is acting perfect.
He's scared. Don't give in.
He'll just go back to the way he was. Remember the reasons you filed for divorce.
This. My XH offered to help me in my job search, go to counseling and sh*t cookies for me. He's desperate and grasping at straws. Next he will get angry, call you a biatch/whore, say you're worthless/will never find someone else to love you and kick and scream his way through the divorce. Ignore the pathetic and proceed as planned.
This.
Of course he is. Acting, that is. If he'd been able to be a normal person in an actual relationship, you'd never have filed. He's able to put up a good front once he realizes you're gone, but he can't BE this way IN a relationship.
Keep firmly in mind the difference between BEING a decent person in a relationship, and ACTING like one once the relationship is over for his failure to BE a decent person.
Of course he is. He's realized that he lost you, and is still stupid enough to think that he has enough power over you to get you to come back. Idiot.
I'm convinced that arsenuggets have a bipolar phase that they go through. Mine did this, and it confused the hell out of me. Don't worry, he'll go back to being just as bad as before. Correction: he'll get worse, then attempt to turn on the charm, then go back to d*ckwad mode. It comes in waves, but eventually settles into a mild case of jackhole.
Stay strong. This will pass. I promise.
Ok, I am, or should I say WAS, in this situation. I kept threatening to file. Before I actually did it, I begged him to stop, pleaded with him....and told him I was going to leave if he didn't stop. I cannot believe that I stooped so low as to beg, but I was hoping it would work.
It didn't and I filed in November.
He started to "change" and I took the bait. We missed our first court date in December, but we have another in June. I was so sure that I couldn't live without him, but now I wish I had just stuck to my gut feeling and gone through with it.
Now I am too chickensh*t to do it and I fear that he will fall right back into the same pattern. DON'T give in..... DON'T let your guard down. If it's bad enough to file, then you should stick to it.