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Moving back to the states?
I've been a member of theknot/thenest for years now, just haven't used it much. Which is a shame, but I can't change the past! I'm looking for support from anyone out there who has experienced big international moves.
DH decided the move back to the USA is called for (we currently live in europe). He wants to continue education. I've never lived in the USA, although I am American. I'm scared to death, because we won't have a lot of money, and making ends meet might be hard. I'm going to have to take a break from my schooling (I will get my MA this summer, so won't be able to start my PhD for at least a year). That also affects our plans for TTC.
Anyone else experience a big move like this? My family is mixed when it comes to support. Theyre worried too. My feelings change from day to day. I'm excited, but I'm having trouble finding jobs that Im qualified for. I don't like moving somewhere without having a job to "move into", so-to-speak.
Any support/insight appreciated!
Re: Moving back to the states?
Most of us have done big moves, although for many of us it was to move out of the States rather than back to them. But there are those here who have done both as well.
The economy in the States still isn't the best and your ability to find a job will depend a lot of your qualifications as well as the area you are moving to. I don't know how prices in in whatever part of Europe you are living compare to the States, but for Australia our prices here are much higher than USA prices, so for me it would be cheaper to live in the USA. Maybe that will be true for you as well.
Anyway, welcome to the board. If you give us a few more details, like where you are and where you are moving to I'm sure many of the ladies here will be able to be more helpful than I.
I agree with bluegirl - where are you now and where would you like to move? That might help us give some moving tips.
Moving without a job is definitely scary, but that doesn't mean it won't work out. Have you applied to PhD programs in the States already? I'm pretty sure you can apply without having your MA yet if you can prove that you'll have it by the time the PhD program starts. Of course, you'll have to take the GRE first if you haven't done that yet.
What fields are the two of you in?
Is applying for your PhD and waiting to hear before you commit to moving an option? Most PhD programs (depending on the field) offer some kind of funding and knowing what you're being offered would help. Also, depending on the field, you may want to be able to do research with a specific professor or be in a specific city and I would think this would impact your overall plan to move.
You don't need to answer this, but given all of your seemingly legitimate reasons to wait and think this through, I am wondering why your DH feels a move back to the US "is called for." Does he feel like his career potential is limited where you are? Difficult to get by financially? Just a feeling that he wants to "settle down" in the US eventually and that you may as well do so before you start having kids? I would spend a lot of time soul-searching with him and be very upfront about how you feel. An international move (any move, really) can be a big stresser on a relationship even in the best scenario and could wreak absolute havoc if you're not both in sync.
In all honesty, it doesn't sound like you want to move. Shouldn't this be a decision that you come to together?
I agree with this. Is your husband American as well?
I agree with this. Is your husband American as well?
Agreed. An international move is a huge decision that should be agreed upon together.
You're all right, I didn't give anywhere near enough info.
We live in eastern Europe (Hungary). He is American also. He doesn't speak the lingo here, but I do. I have options here, but the economy has been awful and now you may have noticed the government situation isnt terribly stable, either. Well, stable, but taking a turn for the ugly.
I've missed the deadline for applying to the phd programs that I'd like to apply to, so US schooling means a one year wait. We'd like to go back to Oregon, where DH has enrolled in le cordon bleu to continue education in his passion: cooking and baking.
He will have gi bill benefits and I have family there, but we really want to be as independent as possible. I'm ok with going, I'd love to try it. But I'm really scared witless. :-/ I'm a clinical health psych major, and it's almost impossible to get jobs in my field without licensing. Licensing isn't given without experience. Experience is hard to get without licensing. I'm good at what I do, but I'm caught in a catch-22.