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NSOR WWYD *Updated*

southsamsouthsam
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Long story hopefully short...

I got a letter in the mail a few weeks ago addressed to a name I had never heard of (not the previous owners) and it didn't look like junk mail.  I typically throw away obvious junk mail that isn't addressed to me (doesn't everyone?).

I put the letter back in the mail with a note on it saying: wrong address.  The letter came back to me a few days later.  I put it BACK in the mail with wrong address underlined.  It came back to me again today.  F it.  I opened it to see what it was.  Otherwise, it was going in the trash.

It was a party invitation with an RSVP name and email.  So I emailed her.  I told her the situation, told her that I don't think they ever lived here, told her I didn't want her to be waiting on an RSVP from these people that she won't get, told her to enjoy the party, and apologized for what may be a creepy email.

BF thinks I am BSC. 

I mean, it was a surprise 30th bday party (close to my age), Richmond is THE SMALLEST CITY EVER (so I have to assume we have far fewer than 6 degrees of separation), and I would want to know if I had the wrong address for someone...

oops? or no big deal?

ETA:  She just wrote back and said:

Haha...Thank you so much for letting me know! This could have cause a family feud if they thought they were left out! I will get in touch w/them asap. Thank you so much for letting me know!

Win.

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  • TheBusinessOfMotherhoodTheBusinessOfMotherhood
    Since you tried to send it back and got it back again, I think you did the polite thing.
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  • MintChocoChipMintChocoChip
    Ehh, isn't opening someone else's mail a federal offense?  I would have thrown it out to be honest.  These days, if someone didn't RSVP, they could have emailed or called the person instead.
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  • DorisWEDorisWE

    imageMintChocoChip:
    Ehh, isn't opening someone else's mail a federal offense?  I would have thrown it out to be honest.  .

    I would, and have, done this in the past. 

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  • southsamsouthsam

    Yeah it is...but I thought throwing it away was also (illegal).

    oops.

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  • happy555happy555
    In a small town, it doesn't sound crazy to me. Sounds to me like you were just trying to be polite and nice. For future reference though, instead of "wrong address", I think I would write "return to sender" on the envelope. I believe (someone correct me if I'm wrong) that will actually return the letter to whoever sent it so that they will know it was not received.
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  • southsamsouthsam

    imagehappy555:
    In a small town, it doesn't sound crazy to me. Sounds to me like you were just trying to be polite and nice. For future reference though, instead of "wrong address", I think I would write "return to sender" on the envelope. I believe (someone correct me if I'm wrong) that will actually return the letter to whoever sent it so that they will know it was not received.

    Good point. Although, it didn't have a return address on it, which may be why the post office kept sending it back to me.   

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  • happy555happy555
    imagesouthsam:

    imagehappy555:
    In a small town, it doesn't sound crazy to me. Sounds to me like you were just trying to be polite and nice. For future reference though, instead of "wrong address", I think I would write "return to sender" on the envelope. I believe (someone correct me if I'm wrong) that will actually return the letter to whoever sent it so that they will know it was not received.

    Good point. Although, it didn't have a return address on it, which may be why the post office kept sending it back to me.   

    In that case, I would've done the exact same thing.
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  • NinjaPaantsNinjaPaants
    I probably would have just thrown it away. That is really annoying they didn't provide a return address.
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  • WhatDidIDoWrongWhatDidIDoWrong
    imageMintChocoChip:
    Ehh, isn't opening someone else's mail a federal offense?  I would have thrown it out to be honest.  These days, if someone didn't RSVP, they could have emailed or called the person instead.
    It's not against the law to open mail if it has YOUR address on it. If it had the other person's correct address on it then it would be. I only know this because my dad works for the post office and I asked because I was getting mail for other people. I would have done the same thing if it kept coming back and didn't have a return address.
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  • ClaireDunphyClaireDunphy
    While I think what you did was fine & considerate, I would've just written "Return to Sender" on the envelope.
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  • MintChocoChipMintChocoChip

    imageWhatDidIDoWrong:
    imageMintChocoChip:
    Ehh, isn't opening someone else's mail a federal offense?  I would have thrown it out to be honest.  These days, if someone didn't RSVP, they could have emailed or called the person instead.
    It's not against the law to open mail if it has YOUR address on it. If it had the other person's correct address on it then it would be. I only know this because my dad works for the post office and I asked because I was getting mail for other people. I would have done the same thing if it kept coming back and didn't have a return address.

    Ah ha!  Good to know--thanks! 

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  • LandOBiscuitLandOBiscuit
    I would have done the same thing because if I were in her situation, I wish someone would do this. It was a nice gesture. Throwing away someone else's mail that is visibly not junk mail is illegal and inconsiderate. I often get mail that is not for me with an address that is not even mine. I always deliver it myself. And I hope someone would do the same. Reminds me I have to do it today.
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