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s/o Dogs Sleeping In Beds
Does it really bother that many people?
How do you deal with it if your dog sleeps in bed with you & your SO isn't okay with it?
Should I start getting my little dog used to sleeping in his crate since the guy I'm seeing now has already told me he's not okay with dog sleeping in bed with us?
Re: s/o Dogs Sleeping In Beds
I've never allowed my dog to sleep in my bed. Granted, she's 75 pounds. If she was smaller, I probably would have.
I think you have to be sensitive to your SO's feelings. If he's against it, you should start training the dog to sleep elsewhere. My dog has one of those big fluffy dog beds next to my side of the bed. Is that a solution that might work?
FF and I have this exact scenario -- I sleep with my dog and he doesn't like dogs on the bed.
When we're at my house, Harley gets to sleep on my side of the bed (I have a king size bed). When we're at FF's, house, Harley has her own bed on the floor next to my side of the bed (his bed is a Queen). It took a few times of Harley pouting and looking for a way onto the bed, but she's adjusted. Heck, the last time I stayed over there, we were in the living room watching a movie and I noticed Harley was gone. When I found her, she was in the bedroom sleeping on her own bed! I'd say she's adjusted just fine.
It was a compromise I was more than willing to make.
He really loves his crate, so I think I'll just move it into my bedroom. It's currently in the laundry room.
Hopefully it'll be an amicable solution for all
I always had dogs growing up (we don't have one now) and our dog never slept on our beds. I would not like that at all, and I am a dog lover!
That might be a personal preference, but it would be a deal breaker for me if I was with someone who insisted their dog share a bed with me.
BF prefers that the dogs don't sleep in the bed, but occasionally he relents and will allow one to jump in with us. She always gets hot and jumps out after a few minutes anyways. The other one will wait to make her move until our breathing patterns indicate that we're asleep, then will jump in on my side. He's OK with this too - she's not up against him.
Ironically, my dogs didn't sleep with me a whole lot when I was single. I think their motivation to sleep in the bed is because they feel left out, LOL.
This. Growing up, our dog stayed in the family room and kitchen, so that's what I'm used to. Now, I don't let my roommate's pets in my bedroom at all.
I'm not okay with dogs in the bed either. If I dated a guy who insisted that his dog sleep in the bed with us, it'd be a deal breaker..
I wanted to comment on the other post about how OP said she slept on the couch while the dog slept in the bed with her BF. I can't believe no one said anything about it. I wouldn't be having that.
i would be pretty stabby if the dog slept in our bed...she isn't small, she's a weimeraner and gets up all the time...she used to sleep in the corner of the bed room on her bed, but the shaking woke me up and we already wake up at 4 AM to get to work, so i was getting maybe 3 hours of sleep a night, so that ended that, plus the dog was sooo needy and had no boundaries, we'd be having sex and she'd start trying to lick B's feet or nuzzle at the bed and totally ruined the mood....i'm not exactly a fan of the dog.
i'm a cat person, i wouldn't care if the cat slept in my bed (if i was alone) but i wouldn't wnat the cat in bed with me and B. she tried to jump in bed last night because she wasn't ready for sleep and got evicted to her bed room. Her bed is normally out with the dog's by the pellet stove, and they usually sleep together.
Ever since I was 2 years old, I have been sleeping in the same bed with my dog. She and I co-slept until we had to put her to sleep when I was 18.
When the X and I first met, he told me he didn't know how people slept with their dogs, well that didn't last long after Raven was rescued and brought home. I have SO many pictures of her head on his shoulder and they are both sleeping.
However, I do think it is weird that people co-sleep with their children.
I think it is all personal preference.
The BF had a dog a long time ago that slept in bed with him, but when he got a GF, the dog refused to sleep in the bed, so she (dog) moved herself to the couch.
When the BF spend the night at my place, there are 5 in the bed. LOL!
My largest dog is approx 90 pounds, so we aren't talking small dogs either.
ETA: I can understand others not wanting them sleeping in the bed and I will compromise, but up to this point it hasn't been an issue with me.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
My dog sleeps on my bed with me. My xbf didn't mind except that she liked to lay on his feet and that bugged him hahah. So I tried buying her a dog bed and getting her to sleep in it, but HIS dog totally took it over haha even though she was like way bigger than the bed, and had her own gigantic one.
If I dated a guy who had a problem with my dog in the bed I'd probably work a lot harder on getting her to sleep somewhere else.
I had three cats when I adopted an adult dog. The cats always slept on the bed, but once the dog moved in, they spent most of their time in the cellar. After about a week my bed stank like dog, and I missed the cats. The trainer I was working with told me to crate her in the evening, which I felt really guilty about. But I tried it, and after maybe two nights of barking for about 5-10 minutes each night, she now sleeps in there happily. We have a little late night ritual, with the last walk, and a treat, and the crate and all, so it was a happy time for her. She is a very cuddly dog, and gets lots of attention during the day.
And I never ever ever crate her for punishment.
At some point I think I'm going to try leaving the crate door open, because she really does like it in there (she naps in there often during the day) and it's in a nice warm spot (although not in my room).
But if you're going to crate her, do it now when it's not an issue, and she'll be used to it.
I am inclined to say that anyone who wants to kick my dog out of my bed so he can sleep there can just blow me,
but then again I have been very anti-men and pro-dog lately.
A more reasonabole solution is probably to compromise, like PPs have said.
Sup. We are not even past the hug/quick smooch greeting, kissing part - and it's just kissing not full on making out yet. So those two situations were more of, I know I should not be driving this late or after drinking things can I stay on the couch. He seems very.....moral?...when it comes to the physical stuff (which is fine) but we still need to have that talk as well. Initially he did tell me he went really slow with the physical part of things.
Feel free to just comment/ask next time. I am new, learning, and that is the kind of stuff I am on this board for
LOL! I've definitely had moments where I've felt like that
I ended up putting his crate in my bedroom last night to see how he reacted. He whined 2-3 times here & there throughout the night, but I simply said "hush" & he went back to sleep. Overall, it wasn't nearly as bad as I was expecting.