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If you have toys does your DH/SO know?

While dating my DH found my stash of toys in my bedside table. It was no big deal to me as I wasn't hiding them and they were in plain sight. He, however, was kind of freaked out about it. I have since retired those toys because I needed something new. The thing is that I never told him about the new toy and I enjoy it in secret - probably due to his initial reaction.

/I never orgasm during intercourse and he is poor in other avenues to orgasm so I feel this is my only outlet.

 Am I alone??

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Re: If you have toys does your DH/SO know?

  • DH knows about my toys and I know about his porn collection.  It's not a secret on either of our part, but we try to be discrete about it. 


  • Yes he knows. I bought it last year. I think he was mildly surprised to hear that I've actually used it, but I was quick to point out it was only a couple of times (we started trying around the same time and the real deal was much more fun!)

    We've been together since we were 19 and I guess I was somewhat of a late sexual bloomer. DH is actually the one who told me I should go out with some friends to a novelty shop and purchase something. He's also gone with me a few times, but those times we wind up leaving with something tame like massage oil lol.

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  • yep my DH2B knows .... last week i said DH2B could you please put the baby to bed so i can run out to spencers and buy a new vibrator when i got home i showed him what i had bought and he said 'oh good it always bothers me when my GF buys something bigger than me (we have been together for 5+ years)
  • My DH has bought toys and surprised me with them, and we use them together.  For his birthday last year, I purchased several new toys for us, and they have been well used.  We watch porn together while using our toys and we have so much fun!
  • Of course he knows, and has even bought some for me.

    I married an adult, whi isnt intimidated by a piece of latex.

    I thinkn k it is very sad that you have to hide this from your H and that he feels threatened by it.



  • Yup, he knows and has bought me a few. Your H should not be threatened by you pleasing yourself. What also worries me is that you say that he is poor in other avenues... it seems like you two might have problems communicating about sex and what you expect from each other in the aspect of your relationship.
  • My boyfriend knows, and it's a running joke when we don't see each other for a few days that B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) is filling in for him. Although, they've never actually met. Maybe it's time.
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  • My DH knows I have toys, but not how many or how big. 
  • Yeah, he knows.

    Why did your spouse flip out?

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  • H knows about my toys and we use them together sometimes.
    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
  • Yup, DH knows. We use them during intercourse and I use them alone. Does he know how many? I am sure he has not counted but he can point them out in a line up.

    I also have books and videos (AKA classic porn) so he is not intimidated at all because I tell him I love the real thing more than something to plug in and charge or battery operated.

  • Yes, we share the same toy drawer.
  • of course he knows. we use them together and he's even purchased me new ones. why in the world would i hide that type of things from him?
  • Yep my BF and I bought a few toys together after we got together. And if I buy a new one I always come home and tell him about it and how excited I am to use them that night. Which reminds me, now might be a time to invest in a nice little adult toy chest. ;)
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  • I know about my girls vibrator and when shes not using it I sick it in my ass. So it's really our sex toy. Thats how it's supposed to be not yours or mine just ours!?
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  • Yep he definitely does.  He's bought one for me even.
  • We bought ours together. It was super embarrassing at first, but I got used to it. :P
  • imagebornefree69:
    My DH has bought toys and surprised me with them, and we use them together.  For his birthday last year, I purchased several new toys for us, and they have been well used.  We watch porn together while using our toys and we have so much fun!

    Same for me.  DH likes to surprise me every now and then with a new vibrator (like for Christmas or anniversary).  Like PP, we use them together.  My suggestion to you is to educate your husband on the fact that MOST women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.  Try using one on the outside while having sex.  You'll have the best orgasms of your life, and after you get used to doing this, you might eventually have orgasms from g-spot stimulation (internal) and from stimulation of the clitoris.

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