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How Long Do You Wait...
... To sleep with a new guy?
Not asking for a particular reason, as I know every person & relationship is different. But I know some people have a set time period while others just see how things flow.
Thoughts?
Edited to clarify: I mean sex. But feel free to discuss sharing sleeping space as well. 
Re: How Long Do You Wait...
This is tough. I, personally, in the past have had issues waiting because I was just too eager and look where it got me. Heh. With STBXH, I slept with him on the third date, and it was my third time meeting him. It didn't feel right with him, but I did it anyway because I used to be a whoreski. With current BF, I talked to/texted him for a month before I met him, and went on two dates with him before we did the deed. I felt like I knew him better because we had contact for a month prior to meeting and it felt right. We're still together and doing well, now, 7 months later. So I guess it depends on when it feels right.
darn i'm a slut compared to some women here, but i was trying to seduce B right away...but the chemistry was so right, there was no way to deny it.
it's all about what feels right for you, because if it had been any other guy, i'd have not been so quick to rip his clothes off and go for it.
as for sleeping space, we spent as many nights together on TDY (all but 1) as we could until i moved in with him a week after my divorce (from the time we came home from TDY til my divorce was final was 1 month, took that long because i needed a week to go on another TDY and then a week to write up the papers)....granted during my divorce process i spent 1 night with him and that was the night XH kicked me and was threatening me further because i came home late from a night out with my girl friends. (we were a week away from our court date)
Depends on the person. I've definitely I wished I hadn't jumped into bed with some people so soon after my divorce but for me it was more because I wanted sex and not because I had crazy feelings for them. I sound like a whoreski now.
No set timeline though. Whenever it feels right, although if you like the guy I would err on the side of waiting until you're sure. Also, I think it's important to be able to talk about sex with someone before doing it--condoms, STD talk, etc. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be jumping in the sack.
Sometimes I go to "like" posts like on facebook, but I forget that you can't. I wish you could lol.
I am more on the cautious side and try not to go by "feelings". We got to guide our heart or we just keep breaking it over and over. I don't want to give my body freely to anyone so it would take several dates and possibly months before I would give in.
With current boyfriend, we were casually dating for approximately 3 months-ish before we became exclusive and sealed the deal.
Even though I say "casual" he wasn't dating anyone else and neither was I.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I call this meeting of the whoreskis to order
Seriously tho, this makes me feel a lot better, because I personally just celebrated a milestone - my first 'first date' on which I didnt sleep with the dude.
Add me to the list of whoreskis.
Waiting months seems like SUCH a long time to me. I'm usually pretty pleased if I last to date 5.
It just depends....it depends on how well you've gotten to know each other. Last year, I dated a guy I really liked for 8 dates and never gave into sex even though we did other things and had sleepovers...he eventually stopped calling me and disappeared. I think he was annoyed that he'd actually have to have a relationship w/ me before I'd have sex.
I had sex with the guy I'm currently with after we established we'd only see each other.
I'm kind of in the Millionaire Matchmaker mindset of "no sex before monogamy" and I think that happens at different stages for different people.
I'm odd. I didn't sleep with xH until we'd been engaged several months. I had religious reasons, but I'm also extremely private about my body.
With S, I'm pretty sure it will be a while. There's definitely chemistry, and from the things we've tried, there's compatibility, but I want to wait until I'm sure amd have my post-traumatic stress worked out. The last thing I want is for something to get triggered.
That said, everyone is different. Just do what is best for you amd your relationship.