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WWYD. Family member sells cars. But....
A family member works for a good dealership selling new and used cars. He is a good employee, a good worker. No problems at work and plays by the rules.
However, he has a sketchy history when it comes to family and friends. He has stolen from family, borrowed money and never paid it back, sponged off people, etc. I personally do not trust him and he will never get a key to my house. And, I hide some things when everyone's over for the holidays. He's the guy that will always try to figure out a way to get the most he can for as little as he can, even if it's underhanded. I have never told him our income, the price of our house, and other such financial information because I don't trust him. I will, however, say that he has matured and straightened up some in the past few years.
I'm ready to guy a new or good used car. Would you go to this guy because he can get you a really good deal, or would you go elsewhere because you don't want him knowing your personal information?
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Re: WWYD. Family member sells cars. But....
I would go somewhere else.
You don't owe any family member your business, and you can always say you were interested in one particular car (new or used) that was available at the other dealer.
Go somewhere else - you don't want to get mixed up with him in case he starts acting like a sleazebag again.
Why would you consider going to him in the first place? Is he the only used car dealer in your area? Would he give you a fantastic discount? (And even if he DID give you a great discount, do you think there's potential for him to hold that over your head for the next 15 years when he wants a favor from you?)
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Just remember the axiom: Never do business with family.
If he questions you, just tell him that you would hate for things to get awkward if something went wrong with the car.
Yes, there are exceptions ... but you are already not on the best ground and so there would be little to no remorse on his part if he did find a way to take advantage of you and little to no reason to think that he would make something right.
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Thanks everyone. You pretty much said what I was feeling.
Yes, but the type of person he is would go to the financing guy and find out how much DH and I make, our credit score, all our credit information, and then come asking for money. Then, when we refuse, he'd call us names and tell the whole family we're stingy as$holes. And, say we owe him money because he got us a good deal.
Definitely decided we're not going to go to him.
Good. The last thing you want is to be under obligation to him.
Go to someone else. Friends/family and money do not mix,