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Just looking out for my pregnant Juneville ladies...
Here's the link to an article that may be of some interest:
http://www.ivillage.com/how-avoid-childbirth-regrets-after-c-section/6-b-407576
Ironically, I had both girls natural - no drugs, nothing. And frankly I do not recommend going the route I did.
My BF had baby boy the day after our wedding (bummer that she missed the wedding) and her husband is a big boy - 6' 4" and she is a mere, 5' 2". The baby was almost 9 pounds! Needless to say she ended up having a c-section. My point - it happens and this is OK.
Re: Just looking out for my pregnant Juneville ladies...
Jost - your example about your friend's recent birth is exactly why I will not rule a c-section out (in fact, up until a year or two ago, that was the only thing I considered. lol). H is 6'6, I'm barely 5'1 (closer to 5'.5" lol)...so I can definitely see dealing with a 9 pounder. Ugh. lol. However, I think I'll try a vaginal birth unless there is a reason for a scheduled c-section prior to labor.
Thank you for sharing! This something good to keep in the back of my mind for the future!
So true
One of my best friends had her first baby in October. She had an entire birth plan to deliver naturally but when her stubborn little boy was over a week late she was induced and after 24 hours of labor she had to have a C-section. It wasnt ideal but she was over it the second that her baby was laying on her chest and started breast-feeding.
I was born by c-section and I don't quite understand the aversion to it.
My plan is to go in without a plan. I've not done this before, maybe I'll be a complete wimp and maybe I won't....and you never know what can happen. All that said, I kinda don't want the epidural, but if I'm not dealing well, then I'll get one...so be it.
Exactly! You can't plan somehting you have no control over!
Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. Pay attention to the behavior of your child while you are pregnant. I SWEAR to this:
Victoria (first born):
born on due date, 616 in the morning, perfect pregnacy.
Her personality now: Same thing - she's 16 and is always on time, gets perfect grades - she's a stepford child.
Jo Ann:
Would not stop moving, a week late, didn't even cry once she came out (I was worried)
Now: Poster child for ADHD, HIGH pain tolerance, can't sit still if her life depended on it.
They are who they are!
Same here, except I do want the epidural. I cry over paper cuts.
Ditto! haha if I break a nail I will whine about it until it stops annoying me days later. I am such a wuss, I want drugs please!!
Ha ha, honey I think you are in for some trouble
The way I see it, God knows my pain tolerance because He built it, so He will make sure I can handle this. ha
Oh my. I found parts of this article to be terribly concerning. "You'll Know Exactly When Your Baby Will Arrive", "Your Baby Will be Camera-Ready", "Extra Hospital Time Has Its Perks", "You Get Treated Like a Queen"??? I think we all know that the closer you are to 40 weeks the better. Having a c-section so your baby is "camera ready"? Are you KIDDING ME?! Shallow! I dunno about anyone else, but I don't particularly like hospitals so the sooner I can bust out with my baby, the better. Plus more time in the hospital means more money you're going to have to pay. I would hope that any new mother would be treated like a queen, not just those who have their baby via c-section.
If there are complications and a vaginal birth is not going to be a possibility I'm all for a c-section, but having a c-section because you want your baby to be born on an even day is selfish and ridiculous.
Just my two cents.
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The camera ready thing got me, for sure. I don't really mind hospitals (not that I've ever stayed overnight) and we'll be paying a set amount regardless, so those things didn't bother me; however, I don't plan on doing a c-section, but see them as more of a necessity. Planning to have one so your baby will be cuter in the first pictures is just plain wrong thinking IMO.
I am on the same page as you girls! I think c-sections should be something you resort to as a medical necessity. I don't think its something you should do for vanity or convenience but I also don't think you should be totally against it if its best for the health of you and the baby. A c-section is still a major surgery compared to vaginal child birth and there is much more recovery needed. But that is just my opinion and I can't really judge since I haven't been through either.
I don't think it is really possible to schedule a c-section unless it is deemed medically necessary. Many women who have already had a c-section with a previous child, will schedule this because of many doctors resistance to perform a VBAC. So, I think the article was trying to "lift your spirits" demonstrating that if you have to have a c-section, here's some of the benefits and it isn't all that bad.
I just feel like it has become a trend for women to want to forgo vaginal birth and schedule a c section so they can time when their baby comes and other possibly selfish reasons and I don't think that is right. I would hope doctors wouldn't do that but I think some do.
If you look at this article as just pointing out that if you have to have a c section its not the end of the world - here are some good things about them then I understand what they were trying to do. Thanks for pointing this out Jost!
Sometimes I think people get too wraped up in being black or white and can have very strong opinions without much research. In the end isn't all just about having a healthy baby?!!
I (now) completely agree with the bolded. A few years ago, I was very much one of the bolded people. There were a few reasons such as, I am short (H is a giant) and if I have a big baby I seriously worry about tearing. My oldest sister had a 4th degree episotomy with my niece and was in incredible amounts of pain (her c-section with my nephew was significantly less pain & shorter recovery). Also, I've always been a planner, so I wanted to know what I was having, when I was having it, etc. Now I'm more relaxed about the idea (not finding out gender, will take "birthing plan" lightly, etc).