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This article / thread makes me stabby
The Bumpies are getting mommy boners all over it, too.
To the Mother With Only One Child
And the thread: [link]
Personally, I want to know why she keeps having kids if she hates it so much. I hate martyr moms. Some people do not genuinely enjoy taking care of others. If you are one of these people do.not.have.children. The only pro on the "should I have kids" side of the list is that you WANT TO TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN. If you do not WANT TO TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN, then it's ALL cons.
Want to clarify: I don't judge people based on kids, no kids, lots of kids, adopted kids, bio kids, dogs that are like their kids, whatever. I judge people who try to fit their square peg selves into a round peg hole and then bltch about how hard it is to fit into a round peg hole.
Re: This article / thread makes me stabby
okay...I'm so glad that I am not the only one thinking why is she making it seem like its THAT bad with one child. Sure its hard...but a lot of things are difficult in life. Having ONE child isnt the hardest.
I'm sure being a mother of 9 kids is easier when you have someone who "fetches clean diapers and gets rid of the dirty ones" thats what my husband does. lol jk...but I'm kind of serious too.
I did not get the vibe that she enjoys being a mother. I get the vibe that she is forcing herself to enjoy it and writing articles to make herself feel better.
whatever though. 9 kids? good for her...not for me though. I'm good with my one as DREADFUL as she made it seem ONLY have one child. gtfoh.
I'm usually all kinds of ready to get on the Bumpies for being overly emotional wrecks, but I'm not feeling it this time. I got the sense that the author of the article was just acknowledging the fact that the first kid is the hardest because you don't know what's going on yet. I also didn't feel like she hates having kids. She's just saying that it's easier when you get more experienced with it and that she has help now in the form of the ones who've come before. Those statements are true for anything you do.
Even the bumpies weren't that bad... I was hoping for an overly dramatic pissing contest about how their kid cries loudest and most often. Or at least someone saying that she was finding motherhood so easy. Instead they were more, "Yeah, it hard. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks so."
I don't get the sense she hates being a mom, but that article annoys me. Her experience as a first time mom, and being the mom of only one child, was FAR from the experience I had/ am having.
I don't relate to that article at all and she writes it as if her experience is THE experience that all FTM's have.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I find the article irritating as well. Yes, there have been moments where its been overwhelming etc. but the experience this woman had I think could be attributed to her being a little bit overwrought about every little thing.
This is coming from someone who has been known to be histrionic and overwrought. Yes, there are days that get to me with Abby, but really its not as bad as all that.
ETA: I am lol-ing at the term "mommy boners" haha!
I didn't get the impression that she dislikes taking care of kids. It sounded more like what she hated was the way everyone always tells new mothers that they are doing it wrong or not doing enough. Some mothers manage to just brush that off (and I hope someday to be one of them), but a lot take it really hard. And considering the way I've seen some mothers I know treated, I can definitely see why it gets to them.
But once you get to 9 kids? Obviously you're kind of an expert on most parenting related topics other than contraception (or at least no one is going to tell you to your face that you aren't).
I also think that anyone who feels that "having someone to take care of" is the only good thing about having kids is probably co-dependent.