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Did you go to court alone...
...the day you got divorced? My mom has been accompanying me to court dates for support, but I'm not sure if I want anyone there the day it's "final." Part of me feels like it's a private matter and I want to be able to sort through my emotions alone. Did you go alone? Would it be weird and juvenile to bring someone with me?
Re: Did you go to court alone...
XH & I both went alone. We both sat there & cried a little. We actually got along really well that day.
Too bad he's been a total douchenozzle since.
I went by myself, but I wouldn't have cared if someone wanted to go with me. XH wasn't going to attend the hearing, so it didn't really matter to me that it was just me and my attorney.
In your case, you may want to bring someone so you aren't compelled to start celebrating. Because after all, divorce is NOT something to be celebrated or congratulated for.
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I had to bring a witness with me, so it was me, my lawyer, and my BFF at the judge's bench. I'm sooooo glad I had someone there with me. She took my mind off the fact that I had to be in the same room as him. My parents asked if I wanted them there (they live 13 hours away), but I declined. I wasn't going to put them out like that, plus I couldn't guarantee that my mom wouldn't claw XH's eyes out.
XH brought his fiancee, but she had enough presence of mind to not come into the courtroom.
My divorce was final the same day as mediation. Because I was terrified of my xH (abuse...gotta love it), I took my mom. At one point, she was able to tell my lawyer more details about my abuse, because voicing it myself left me shaking.
Divorce is an emotional thing. Even though I was relieved, I was also very emotional. Be sure to take time to sort out your feelings.
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My friend came along with me and I'm soooo glad she did! I was crying walking out of the courtroom and she was there with a hug and then we headed to the bar where we proceeded to drink! It was a tough day and I'm glad I had someone there for me.
same here!! LOL
It really sucked that my exH came to court when he had no real reason to. Our divorce was very simple and I was the plaintiff. He had already signed the papers, he just showed up to make me see his face one last time - prick.
ugh what a diiiiick!! I was sooo glad my ex didn't show up.