To everyone pregnant, TTC, or getting ready to...

melissamather · January 2012

I'm so excited for you guys. Until I just read through the "I'd be lying thread", I had no idea that so many of you guys are on that path! I have off and on baby fever but DH and I are TTA for a while. Maybe even a couple years.

I'm starting to feel left out. :[

twixinthemix · January 2012

I missed most of the posts yesterday (Wednesdays are my really long days now), but we're TTA as well, so don't feel left out! Of course I have baby fever, but we plan on grad school for the next two years and don't want to put ourselves in a financial strain then. So once we're out of grad school and into steady well paying (errr...well paying for a teacher lol) jobs, then we will TTC!

annagtz82 · January 2012

Don't feel left out. I still have a few more months till I decide to get off the pill and even then I won't really be TTC. I'm taking it as, let's see what happens. If I get pregnant, then good. If not then it's ok too. We won't really be TRYING unless we don't concieve with in the next year or so.

Maybe I have this mind set because deep down I know I'm not financially or emotionally ready to be a mommy yet. You'll ge tthere when you're ready.

Kimberet · January 2012

Melissa (and anyone else that may feel this way), please don't feel left out! I think there are still quite a few women on the board that are TTA for another year or two, at least. Plus, I think there is a lot of excitement/buzz about babies right now because of Noah's arrival and Salty & DFWIndian's announcements. I think we all still have other things to talk & bond with each other about that don't include babies!

NolaWhit · January 2012

I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!

junewife · January 2012

Don't feel left out! I get serious bouts of baby fever sometimes, but we're TTA for at least 3 (probably 5+) years. Until then I just have fun keeping up with the lovely pregnant ladies here and enjoying my sleep!

bell2belling · January 2012

Aww, don't feel left out! There are still a lot of people TTA. You're definitely smart for waiting a few years. Sometimes I feel a bit jealous when I hear that everyone else wants to travel first and whatnot, because that was our plan, but H decided he would rather travel as a family than just the two of us and he's the one that wanted to travel in the first place.

I try not to talk about being pregnant too much, but it's super hard when there's all of these crazy things happening to my body on a daily basis! haha

Sharbear722 · January 2012

We aren't planning on having children so honestly I can't relate to these discussions at all. I feel really left out.

StokedWifey · January 2012

NolaWhit:
I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!

You can add a trip to Birmingham to help with the baby fever if you want.

StokedWifey · January 2012

NolaWhit:
I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!

You can add a trip to Birmingham to help with the baby fever if you want.

StokedWifey · January 2012

Don't feel left out. Everyone's life plan is different and you have other things going on! Your time will come and by then, all of us who are already pregnant or trying will be wishing our kiddos were babies again!

audra342 · January 2012

Don't feel left out! DH and I are TTA for a few years yet. I've just gotten into a task that I like and want to work on for a while. DH doesn't really like his job, but is keeping it for now. As you can tell from my other posts, we are in the middle of buying a house. And after we buy the house, we only have enough furniture for a 1 bedroom apartment, not a 4 bedroom house. So we have to spend on furniture and stuff.

So we're not going to be ready for baby for a few years yet. Don't feel bad! I just live vicariously through all the pregnant women/mommies on here. To, you now, get first hand information. Then when we're ready, I'll be informed!

planetkari · January 2012

I totally know where you're coming from. I feel a little baby fever, but we are TTA and won't be TTC until later this year or early next year. Sometimes I feel a little left out too, but I then I see how many other things we all talk about (non-baby related) and I don't feel so left out anymore. Plus I can't help but be excited for everyone who's expecting. It just makes me realize how much fun I'm going to have when it's my time to go through that. To be honest, it doesn't help that the girls on my local TN board talk pretty much exclusively about TTC, being pregnant or their real babies once they're born, so I really don't post over there much anymore.

joyfulbride424 · January 2012

Sharbear722:
We aren't planning on having children so honestly I can't relate to these discussions at all. I feel really left out.

We plan on having kids but not for at least 5+ years or more, so don't feel left out, I can't relate either. We definitely don't want them right now.

NolaWhit · January 2012

StokedWifey:
NolaWhit:
I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!
You can add a trip to Birmingham to help with the baby fever if you want.

When we lived in Shreveport, we drove through Birmingham (or technically around) on our way to visit Nick's parents in SC. We normally stopped around there to get my Zaxby's fix. Love that place!

mb2712 · January 2012

Don't feel left out! As much as I LOVE kids, we aren't planning for them for a little bit yet either. I am halfway through my Masters, I'll finish Spring of 2013, so nothing before then is the plan. We'll see!! DH wants to start trying so I'd have the baby at the end of the 2013 school year, but I'm not sure if I'm ready yet.

saltypearl · January 2012

I'm sorry you feel left out. In my case, and I don't speak for the other ladies, I feel like I'm old, I'll be 34 when I deliver so my clock wasn't just ticking it was knocking. I travelled, got educated and purchased a house and spent a couple of years with my husband, just us. Don't cheat yourself out of those things to play catch up. You'll get there in your own good time and it will be right for you.

sammichele · January 2012

I know what you mean. I think that I am starting to feel left out more so because I so wish that we *were* able to TTC right now and we just can't. I am not graduating until next April, so that is the absolute earliest that we could start, but even then there are other factors to take into consideration (like have we reached our e-fund goal? will we be able to buy a house soon? will I be starting a new job and need to wait for benefits to kick in?).

I am so happy for everyone, but it's hard feeling like we aren't going to be in the same boat for a long time. Especially when the fever has long since hit us.

mcdol3 · January 2012

We are TTA too so don't feel left out!!

Everyone has different timing for everything in their life.

StokedWifey · January 2012

NolaWhit:
StokedWifey:
NolaWhit:
I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!
You can add a trip to Birmingham to help with the baby fever if you want.
When we lived in Shreveport, we drove through Birmingham (or technically around) on our way to visit Nick's parents in SC. We normally stopped around there to get my Zaxby's fix. Love that place!

Y'all don't have Zaxby's???? I rarely eat there, but it's pretty awesome.

NolaWhit · January 2012

StokedWifey:
NolaWhit:
StokedWifey:
NolaWhit:
I have major baby fever (and I think H does too), but we won't be TTC until mid to late 2013. We are trying to buy a house, and we'll probably need at least one or maybe two new cars before a baby comes along. Plus there are some trips we want to go on pre-baby. So there are several of us TTA right now!
You can add a trip to Birmingham to help with the baby fever if you want.
When we lived in Shreveport, we drove through Birmingham (or technically around) on our way to visit Nick's parents in SC. We normally stopped around there to get my Zaxby's fix. Love that place!
Y'all don't have Zaxby's???? I rarely eat there, but it's pretty awesome.

No, we don't have any in Louisiana right now. There is one going up soon near my parents' house, but they are 5 hours away from us. We have a similar place called Cane's that was started in Baton Rouge, but it's not as good as Zaxby's in my opinion.

junewife · January 2012

saltypearl:
I'm sorry you feel left out. In my case, and I don't speak for the other ladies, I feel like I'm old, I'll be 34 when I deliver so my clock wasn't just ticking it was knocking. I travelled, got educated and purchased a house and spent a couple of years with my husband, just us. Don't cheat yourself out of those things to play catch up. You'll get there in your own good time and it will be right for you.

If there were a "like" button on the Nest, I'd totally use it here.

joyfulbride424 · January 2012

junewife:
saltypearl:
I'm sorry you feel left out. In my case, and I don't speak for the other ladies, I feel like I'm old, I'll be 34 when I deliver so my clock wasn't just ticking it was knocking. I travelled, got educated and purchased a house and spent a couple of years with my husband, just us. Don't cheat yourself out of those things to play catch up. You'll get there in your own good time and it will be right for you.

If there were a "like" button on the Nest, I'd totally use it here.

Click on the smiley face and then choose Yes . WE HAVE A LIKE BUTTON! woo hoo

bell2belling · January 2012

saltypearl:
I'm sorry you feel left out. In my case, and I don't speak for the other ladies, I feel like I'm old, I'll be 34 when I deliver so my clock wasn't just ticking it was knocking. I travelled, got educated and purchased a house and spent a couple of years with my husband, just us. Don't cheat yourself out of those things to play catch up. You'll get there in your own good time and it will be right for you.

I think I'm the opposite, I'm pretty sure I'm the youngest on the board (I'll be pretty close to 22 when this little one is born). It just works out for us, we're very family oriented in everything. Both of our families have started having children pretty young, and H really wants at least 1 child before he hits 30 (he's 27 and thinks he's so ancient haha). It was good timing too, right now I'm still in school but able to take all of my classes online, so I'll be able to be home with baby for the first year and we don't have to worry about daycare or anything right away, which is frighteningly expensive for newborns! We also wanted our grandparents to be able to meet our child because they're getting pretty old and they are such a big part of our lives.

I think we all have different circumstances and we're all in different places in our lives.

junewife · January 2012

Thanks, Joy. I'm pretty dumb with computers! Now I'll be a thumbs-upping machine.

And Britt, I totally get what you're saying. What I liked about saltypearl's post was that she said not to cheat yourself out of anything just to get on the same page as someone else, and you'll get there in your own time when it's right for you. Clearly it's right for you and your H. It's amazing you won't have to pay for childcare for awhile!

I had a young mom (she was 23) and it was great. Things just won't be right for me to have a kid until I'm close to 30 for various reasons. After the wedding, we started getting pressure for babies almost immediately despite how young we are in my mind.

JessyKV · January 2012

I think after you get married its easy to get wrapped up in the momentum of life and feel like (and even want) to have a baby right away. And everyone pressuring you and asking you when you are going to have kids doesn't help. But in the end it is such a personal decision based on so many life factors that only you and your H can know if you are really emotionally and financially ready to add a baby to your family. It is not something to rush into or take lightly and you definitely don't want to look back and regret not taking more time for yourself.

I love that we have so many women on this board that are in different life stages and a wide array of ages as well. Its helps add prospecitve to things.

So don't feel left out or like you are a minority or behind if you are TTA.

ogrady88 · January 2012

JessyKV:

I think after you get married its easy to get wrapped up in the momentum of life and feel like (and even want) to have a baby right away. And everyone pressuring you and asking you when you are going to have kids doesn't help. But in the end it is such a personal decision based on so many life factors that only you and your H can know if you are really emotionally and financially ready to add a baby to your family. It is not something to rush into or take lightly and you definitely don't want to look back and regret not taking more time for yourself.

I love that we have so many women on this board that are in different life stages and a wide array of ages as well. Its helps add prospecitve to things.

So don't feel left out or like you are a minority or behind if you are TTA.

This is one of my favorite things about this board as well. I'm excited to go through and share all of our adventures together. Buying homes, starting families, travelling to exciting places. I get to share these things with all of you

kayla0611 · January 2012

saltypearl:
I'm sorry you feel left out. In my case, and I don't speak for the other ladies, I feel like I'm old, I'll be 34 when I deliver so my clock wasn't just ticking it was knocking. I travelled, got educated and purchased a house and spent a couple of years with my husband, just us. Don't cheat yourself out of those things to play catch up. You'll get there in your own good time and it will be right for you.

This. I'll be 30 next month and H is 31. We are TTA until minto late 2013. So I'll be 31 or 32 when I have a baby. But it's okay bc it gives us another year to travel (2 trips already booked). And we are trying to get our house ready to put on the market. So hopefully we will find our new home to raise our family in before the babies come along. My plan is to have two kids before I'm 35 so will have to have them one right after the other

kmangiamele · January 2012

H and I are also TTA. I am starting grad school this summer and will be done by the end of next summer, so sometime after that we will TTC, our plan is 2 babies before I am 30(which isn't until 2016).

That being said... I spend a lot of time with my 9 month old niece and when she looks at my sister, my heart melts and I wish I could have one right now. I know that in my heart I will be glad that H and I wait a few years after being married to TTC but right now my temperature is rising by the minute!

SonrisaMelissa · January 2012

Thank you everyone for all the responses on this. I have been working the past three days so I've been trying to keep up on my phone.

I hope I didn't come across as bitter or unexcited for all of the ladies on the baby train. I genuinely love hearing about your journeys through TTC, pregnancy, and childbirth. Part of me so wants to be there, but I'm just not yet.

Calistic · January 2012

I actually understand both. We are TTC, but we have been together forever and are a little bit older. All of our friend's started having kids years ago. Many of them now have two and three and their oldests are 7-8 years old. I remember when all of them were getting pregnant I felt so left out. Now, that we are ready to have kids and prepared, I am left out from my friends who either are done having kids or don't want them. It's an odd thing, ttc/tta either way it seems left out lol

I think we have a nice mix here of people TTC and those TTA so, no one should feel left out. Everyone is on a different path and point in their life

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