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I need some advice y'all.

I have a friend whose husband just deployed for the first time.  She is clearly very depressed. Every day, all day, she posts super depressing statuses on Facebook about how she isn't whole anymore and she can't live her life until he gets back. It's not normal. I want to suggest counseling in a message but I haven't really talked to her for a few months and I don't think if I would be overstepping my boundaries. She has a 3 year old and that is what I am most worried about. WWYD?
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Re: I need some advice y'all.

  •  I'll admit every single time my husband deploys I am down the first couple weeks, but I try not to let it show especially out front of my daughter.  Definitely let her know you are worried about her and give her some resources to contact. It she continues to dwell on being depressed, it's not going to get better unless she changes her outlook or gets help.
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  • Good advice above.

    It took me a couple of weeks to get my feet under me when DH last deployed. Can you offer some real tangible help? Have her and her child over for dinner? Babysit the toddler once a week or once a month. Invite her out/over for coffee or to go to the playground with her to chat while her child has fun.

    I have a two and a half year old and a DH who will be deploying. One of my concerns is what to do when I have hit a breaking point frustration wise. I hope to find a friend who can be there for me (and me for her) when I'm at my wits end.

    Thanks for caring for your friend. When a spouse is deployed, friends who are willing and DO step up become treasured friends.
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  • She moved back in with her parents when he deployed, so she has them to help with the kiddo. I feel weird offering to hang out or babysit because we had a big falling out last year when I went through a hard time and she thought I was overdramatizing it all. Like I said, it's been months since I've talked to her. Since October, at my dads funeral.  I just feel like its not my place, but I'm worried about her slipping too far into a depression and I could have helped. 
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  • Annnnd re-reading that, I realize it sounds like a bunch of excuses. I will call her tomorrow. 
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