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My kids with the ex and the other woman?
So, my husband left me for another woman, whom I have not met. The problem is that he lives a couple hundred miles away. He is trying to get it in our divorce decree that he gets the children for several weeks in the summer. My concern is that the other woman will be there. Is there a way I can make sure she is not?
As a broader question, how did you all handle when your children with your ex and the other woman? The thought of it bothers me so much, but I also know there isn't a whole lot I can do about it. I can't say he isn't allowed to get remarried or move in with someone. I can't stand the idea of some other woman mothering my children
Anyone have any thoughts on this one?
Re: My kids with the ex and the other woman?
While I agree that you can put this stuff into writing, how do you really go about enforcing it? And what are the repercussions of violating it, kwim?
OP, these are the things we have to cope with as divorced parents. While I don't like it, I have to be okay with it...because I set the tone for my DS and how he will accept it. I did ask my XH to honor my request to hold off on introducing her to DS as we are pretty newly divorced and I don't want him to put two and two together. Thankfully, XH has been agreeable and had told me that he will talk to me first before DS meets her. It's the best I can do with what I got.
Does it upset me to think about another woman being in DS's life, absolutely, but I am hopeful that she can be another person in DS's life that will love him.
Just remember that anything you put into a CO re: significant others will apply to you as well.
You'll be much better off if you trust your X's judgment when it comes to who he does and does not allow your LO during his parenting time. After all, wouldn't you want him to do the same for you?
This.
Part of divorce is that you do not get to dictate how your ex lives anymore. It SUCKS...and the feeling of loss of control is really hard to deal with. But trying to control the time your child spends with your ex is a losing battle.